Love isn't everything, especially if your DIGNITY is at stake.
Some people are willing to leave their family in order to be with someone that they love. They would run away with the lover or commit suicide with the lover. God only knows why they do such a thing but my theory is that the parents probably did't love the person as much as that person's lover love him/her. If you were never that close with your family, i think it's easier to make a decision against your family.
I'm close with my parents so i doubt i will give my lover more priority unless my parents' decision is UNREASONABLE. Why family more priority? They look after you since you were a child while your lover looks after you in your 20's/30's (depending when you get married).
I get very annoyed when people become and allow themselves to become victims of love by begging for a REJECTED love or doing stupid things in the name of love. Why pursue someone that doesn't love you? Some people are influenced by stupid love movies and stupid love movies send you the lame message that it's a NOBLE THING to do. How so?
Romeo and Juliet. Why nobody condemn them for committing suicide? Islam and Christian clearly states that it's a sin to commit suicide. But putting religion aside, don't you feel angry if you, as a parent, had a child who committed suicide because of love? Oh, just because they can't be together is it necessary to take your own life? But nooooo, instead of calling them a stupid couple, people think it's TRUE LOVE and HOPE THEY CAN FINALLY BE TOGETHER now that they are dead and no one to stop them from loving each other.
Some think it's a "noble" thing to wait for the love of your life to acknowledge your pathetic existence and finally accept your love after the love of your life is "done" enjoying dating various people and to realize you were in fact the only one meant for him/her. If you don't do this, it means you have GIVEN UP. If you do this, means it's TRUE LOVE and people will go "aaawww" at your patience and tolerance.
It's not like i've never been heartbroken but i don't declare my sadness to the world for the world to be sympathetic to me. So instead i condemn the bastard. Condemn makes you STRONGER. Let your hard feel the sadness and cope with the sadness for awhile but don't let the sadness spread to your face and mind.
I think this whole condemnation of mine towards rejected or one sided love arise from an experience where i have to witness a person being pathetic in love, trying to get back the love that was lost. Obviously the other person wasn't interested anymore but he/she couldn't take no for an answer. So the whole situation was just sad and pathetic that it made me so damn angry at the fact that why can't this person just face reality. i felt sad because this person was close to me. Maybe because of this, i will never pursue love which is one sided. It's a waste of time and a slap to your dignity.
Influence and peer pressure. I think no power is greater than peer pressure. The will to want a beautiful love that's never met or rarely met with that drives people to the edge of insanity. But I don't blame these people because their world is shattered. When a world shatters, you'd shout. Even to the world just to be sympathetic with you. The hardest part is knowing how it takes so long for them to rise back from such a phase.
ReplyDeletewhen you spoke of Romeo and Juliet, i think its better to use Love in the time of Cholera. If only they had the patience to do so, then it'd be great. At least the parents would've died by then anyways.
I think people should progress if the love is gone. And let the heart truly feel for something in the future. Its never impossible for the two to be together again. But also never impossible to find new and perhaps better love. It will forever be a choice we'll make.
i was thinking about Love in the time of Cholera but when i think about how he sleeps with 600 plus women, he's just a perverted bastard... Men think its ok to sleep with sluts and still declare their undying love to their true love. Simply put it this way, if i sleep with other men, it means i don't love my partner that much. I don't know, maybe only MEN can do that?
ReplyDeletebut i have to agree on you on the peer pressure. it shows how weak and vulnerable human beings are. they care too much about society.
Some people dwell way too long in their failed relationships.
I did see that view. But I also saw another. It was him trying to cure his sorrow of so long. Perhaps it is despicable that he used the women he was with to cure his pain, but it does show how painful it was for him to be devastated by the love of his life. Remember back when he was at the brothel and he refused the women he was surrounded with. that was the kicker.
ReplyDeleteActually, that was never ok. In the logical world it never was ok. But how do you survive then? Sadly, he choose to sleep around and waited for his true love. At the same time, horribly puzzled how he never got STD from all 600 women. But I can vouch that its not just men who do that. It is the problem that we never get moving on from what we used to have into what we have now.
True. Too long and it becomes horrifyingly damaging.