Impressing the Female Mate...

“Some birds seek to attract a mate by showing off their architectural skills. Constructing nests before the female arrives is a way for males to claim territory and show the suitable nesting areas they can defend. They may also decorate the nest with pebbles, moss, flowers or even litter to make it more eye-catching.”

Why are some MEN SINGLE? One of the possible reasons is because they DON'T KNOW HOW TO COURT THE OPPOSITE SEX.


I've seen cats and dogs mate before. There's no art of courtship with them. They just WANT TO HUMP THE FEMALE and if they can't get the female, they will hump the male (not much difference with the human male anyway).

But with some other animals, there is "The Art of Courtship", like the example i have given above. Some show off how beautiful their feathers are, some dance to impress while there are those who serenade to the female counterparts. In the end, the purposes for all these is to ATTRACT THE FEMALE and for the female to choose them to as a mate.

With HUMAN MALE, i expect them to show some kind of art of courtship too since they are SUPPOSE TO BE INTELLIGENT BEINGS (or am i wrong?).

So what can a human male possibly do to attract the opposite sex?

1. being good looking with hot body OR

2. Rich.. show off how big their car or house is.

so if a man have none of the above, there is only ONE SOLUTION..

Be a gentleman, charming, romantic, caring, bring her out and be able to converse well in all topics (unless you female mate is a pretty dumb bimbo then u won't need to be intelligent). Basically, you must do the "old fashion dating game" because if you don't have a hot physique or money, don't expect a woman to come to you (SO WHO SAYS WOMEN HAVE TO LOOK PRETTY AND SLIM TO GET MEN? EVEN MEN MUST MAINTAIN THEIR LOOKS).

Knowing men, because they are profoundly lazy and couldn't be bothered to make any effort, they like to skip the "dating game" and jump into sex.

Talking about sex 24/7 is not impressive to a girl, asshole.


HONEY, LOOK HOW RED AND SEXY MY NECK IS!!


IF YOU LIKE TO SKIP DATING GAME AND JUMP RIGHT INTO SEX, YOUR SEX LIFE IS PROBABLY GOING TO BE AS BORING AS THIS LION COUPLE. LOOK AT THE LIONESS. INTERESTED? I DON'T THINK SO.

Why Mistresses/Scandals go Public....

Remember Tiger Woods's Mistresses? Or Bill Clinton's Monica Lewinsky? Wayne Rooney's hooker/pornstar mistress? What do they have in common? These are mistresses of famous MALE politicians/celebrities who go public about the scandals...

Immediately you would have thought that these women are FAME and MONEY WHORES. They go public and sale stories and get paid doing so. Well, they are in fact fame and money whores and that the men having scandals with such women are actually stupid and naive to think that these women won't kiss and tell...

But perhaps another reason is that these women were irked by these men so called "good and loving husband and father" image. These men are celebrities/famous people, their lifestyle and family life will occasionally be featured by the media. So the mistresses will know what's going on with them. So when you show off how family man you are when in fact you aren't, that will perhaps be the trigger point where the mistress decides to go public with the scandal.

It's simple concept actually. You have a friend. Your friend brags about how rich he is. And that simply irks you. Then perhaps you tell someone of your dissatisfaction or you came across someone who happen to know the "TRUTH" bout your friend, the fact that he owes money to loan shark or he's going to be a bankrupt, you can't help yourself from feeling a little smug because your friend is a liar. Probably if your friend continue to go around telling other people how rich he is, it will trigger you to tell those people that he's actually debt ridden and going to be a bankrupt.

Some may think you are bad mouthing that person. Can it be bad mouthing if it's the TRUTH? Your purpose is not to embarrass the person, but to give that person a taste of his own medicine. He asks for it anyway, who asked him to brag in the first place? If your purpose is to merely embarrass the guy, then that's kindda wrong.

If you did something wrong, don't try to misrepresent yourself by saying you are a good person, holy person or whatsoever. It will only want to make people bring you down more.

So yes, all those married people who, on the surface, show off how happy they are but in fact behind their marriage is all about scandals and affair, it irks me. Not that i'm saying i hate seeing people happy. But there's a difference when you see someone who is genuinely happy and doesn't intend to show off and a person who show off the whole time, as if wanting to whole world to know his/her world is super perfect.

But going back to these mistresses, they should have personally inform the wife about her husband affair instead going public for the whole world to know and see the wife embarrassed by the media reports. Then again, you won't get anything by telling the wife personally right? Better to wreck a person's marriage publicly and get money doing so. So for famous married people, if you are famous, and you have affair, your affair will be famous too.

Last but not least, be SAFE, don't BRAG...

Young Bride

Marriage is my right, says 14-year-old Maya

Look at the link above.

What is WRONG with this picture?

1. OBVIOUSLY a 14 year old getting married. She's not even done with her studies. She's not even halfway done with her studies.

2. She's 14, and he' 23. 9 years age difference. it's not a problem if the girl was older, like 20 and he's 29 because it's ASSUMED that by then she already reached a mature mind. So it's ok if a 14 year old gets married if she's MENTALLY and PHYSICALLY MATURE? Not really. You can't really measure a person's maturity. But that's why you have juvenile and adult offenders because it's assumed that when you reached 18, you should be responsible for your actions. So regardless whether you are mature or not at 18, you will be tried as an adult. But if you are a 14 year old offender but a genius criminal offender, perhaps even mature beyond your age, you will still be tried as a juvenile offender because there's still an assumption that you haven't reach the age of majority and that you are just a young offender. So is it right for young teens to get married and asked to be treated like an adult, claiming they are mature but yet face the consequences of their bad decisions as a young teen and not as an adult? People will defend them and say "but he/she is just a childdddd"...

3. If you choose to get married, shouldn't you be INDEPENDENT? Have your own place, not depending on parents, etc. There don't know what is the hardship of a marriage as long as they are still staying with the parents. Besides, is it healthy if your parents are involved in your marriage? Interfering here and there?

4. Being a married woman means you need to look after your husband and his needs. What does a married woman do? Work, clean the house, cook for the husband, fulfill her husband's sexual desire. So her mother will do the house cleaning and cooking while she will be busy preparing for exams and night time be with her husband? Even SOME adult married woman who is working need the assistance of a maid to look after the house. And despite that, when they come back from work, they r too tired to entertain the husband. One of the factors why some marriages end up with divorces.

5. Parents always try to prevent their children from being in a relationship while they are still studying. Some parents are so carefree and so called open minded that they think it's cool if their 13 year old child has a bf/gf. Why won't parents allow their children to be in a relationship while studying? Well, relationship can be distracting to your studies. God knows, when you and your partner have a fight, for some young emo people, they think the world is going to end and thus can't concentrate on their studies. Marriage is a big responsibility.

6. With this current 14 old girl girl's case, people think they are an ideal couple because the guy seems to be "islamic" since he's tutoring religion to the girl's siblings. That is also the explanation on how they met. Yeah, he's so professional too. Tutor + flirting. You know, people always like to use RELIGION as a defence to something as controversial as this. they think, oh the girl and the guy are religiously well taught, marriage shouldn't be a problem. With the knowledge of religion, the relationship should be blessed. Did you hear of the story when the ustazah was caught having an affair and she claims she's unhappy with her husband? Mind you, that's an USTAZAH you are talking about.

7. Would there be a bigger uproar to this controversial marriage if the guy was perhaps 30, 40 or even 50 while the girl is still 14 years old? Why should there be any difference if you claim that the girl is a 14 year old mature girl? Maybe some people are so so with this marriage because the age difference isn't that great, just 9 years. But the main issue here is that most people are unhappy because the child is just a child. And who cares if she's not forced to get married? People will attack her parents anyway.

8. If every 14 year old claims they are mature enough to get married, why is there a need to rate movies as to whether its contents are suitable for underage viewers or not. I can be a 14 year old and i can claim i'm mature enough to watch a movie that contents sex and violence.

9. Yeah, i read somewhere that in Islam, there is no AGE LIMIT to getting married. This will be some of the defending arguments that will be used by Muslims who wants to get married below the age of majority. Use your common sense people, don't make the religion look bad.

10. The concept of pedophile will be made redundant if this kind of young marriage trend were to continue. What is a PEDOPHILE? Dictionary.com --> a person who is sexually attracted to children. A man can disguise his pedophile tendencies by disguising his relationship with a child as a MARRIAGE. You know, if it's OKAY for a 14 year old to get married, why not an 8, 9, 10 or 12 year old. Some girls already get their period even at the age of 5.

11. And what kind of a man let themselves have "FEELINGS" for children? Don't you have an age limit on what kind of people who you can flirt with?

Invasion of Privacy and Traps

Scenario 1 : A woman hire another woman to seduce her male partner in order to TEST his loyalty. Should the guy be pissed off when the woman do such thing? Of course if he didn't fall for the trap he would be angry because he thinks the woman doesn't trust him. But if he fell for the trap, then he can't be angry because his partner would have kill him for his infidelity.

Scenario 2 : a common one actually, this is when a partner checks his/her partner's phone WITHOUT PERMISSION. Or reads his diary, or do a check up on his lap top, social networking etc, WITHOUT PERMISSION. There are some relationship where the partner check each other phones. If you don't show your phone, there's an IMPLIED PRESUMPTION that you are hiding something. Then again, if you know your partner is very obsessed with checking your stuff, you will master the talent of hiding your secrets pretty well. Come on, people who are married and living under the SAME BLOODY ROOF can have affairs, what more mere non married couples? As the saying goes, "when there's a will, there's a way".

Personally for me, i don't like it when my partner checks my stuff. It's an invasion of privacy. If you think you can explore my phone because you have the status of a bf or husband, why don't i just shove my diary at your face? I might have something to hide, i might NOT have something to hide, i have my reasons but it definitely doesn't involve having another lover. If i don't love you, i will simply break up with you instead of continuing the failing relationship. the rule of breaking up is simple, you break up because you want to be with another person and the break up is a necessity for you to be able to go out with another person without being accused of cheating. So if someone ask for a break up, just give it to them, to beg to rethink the matter. Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't have the intention to be with you? Okay, i'm running away from the main topic that i'm suppose to discuss about.

Whatever it is, i believe you don't have to be a busybody to find out the truth by invading people's privacy. I'll tell you a REAL INCIDENT that happened. This woman suspects her husband was cheating. She checks his phone without his permission, and go through his bills. Sure when she checks her husband's phone there were flirty messages from other women but there were no reply messages from the husband and perhaps even if they were, it was not flirty. So she became very upset that the husband was being friends with such flirtatious women. pretty normal, who doesn't get jealous? But she has no proof that the husband was having affairs. She only rumors and see flirty text messages from other women. The husband on the other hand, couldn't be bothered to check her phone. He never invade her privacy. But the husband eventually caught that the wife was CHEATING behind his back without ever having to invade her privacy. There were some indications she was cheating but the husband just asked her a simple question whether she cheated. Perhaps she was scared, but she admitted. And later more concrete proof surfaced.

What i'm trying to tell you is that the squirrel can hop from one tree to another perfectly without falling but eventually it will fall. Sorry, i translated that literally from Malay :-p. "Sepandai pandai tupai melompat, akhirnya jatuh ke tanah juga". Cheat all you want but one day you will get caught due to your carelessness. Perhaps it's God's power to show your partner your cheating without your partner having to go through your stuff to see whether you are having affair.

Trust is an important thing in a relationship. If you can't trust, don't be in a relationship. The habit of accusing your partner of having affair when it's not true will only irritate your partner. It will eventually lead to a broken relationship. I think my bad habit when i'm in a relationship is JEALOUSY. I won't accuse my partner of cheating but i will bitch any woman who my partner seem to "like", that would include celebrities :-D...


Scenario 3 : this is more of a legal matter in relation to entrapment. This is when the police secretly use devices or set traps to catch offenders. Like putting up a listening device to record conversations that might be prejudicial to the offender. The issue is whether such evidence will be admissible since the device was secretly located at the offender's house. Of course in a public area there won't be an issue. Cases have shown such evidence is admissible even though it was obtained "improperly". Some seem to think the manner in which the evidence was obtained was irrelevant, what matters most is that the evidence is RELEVANT. On the other hand, some would think it's against the Human Rights.

The Theory of Cheating

1. Have you every heard of the 90% - 10% theory about relationships? If you are in a stable committed relationship, you will only get 90% from the relationship. The 10% explains the affairs and cheatings because you insist on wanting that 10%. I came across this theory several times when i watch movies. It makes sense. So in the end, are you willing to give up the 90% for that 10%? It's simply the natural law of life, you can't get everything so you must be content with what you have, don't be greedy.

2. I was watching an episode from House yesterday. Besides the main medical issues, you have the issues faced by the staff of the hospital. So this episode involved the doctor named Taub, a short balding married man. He started flirting with a pretty attractive staff there. When another person told him that the girl he's flirting with has the hots for him, he became even more excited. So the idea of "OPEN MARRIAGE" started to influenced him. He haven't had anything physical with the girl yet. He seems to believe that it's better to be HONEST than LYING. He suggested this idea to his WIFE. So like any other SANE wife, he couldn't accept it and was shocked. Later in order to keep the marriage, the wife gave the husband the green light to sleep with another woman under certain conditions. Taub was very happy to the extend he was glowing (ungrateful bastard). So on the night he's suppose to meet his flirt, the wife went to see him and said she couldn't go thru with it. The idea of her husband sleeping with another woman hurts her and she loves him so much. Feeling guilty, Taub said he loves her and wouldn't sleep or date that other woman. But in the end he did it anyway, behind his wife's back. Hey, what you don't know won't hurt you right?

3. That's why a partner don't tell his/her partner he/she is cheating. And if they want to look after their reputation, they won't tell their friends either. Thus you will find out about the affair when time permits it a.k.a when he/she gets clumsy in covering her/his affairs.

4. Marriage is boring. That's a fact which we will have to accept. If you can get bored doing the same thing everyday, eating the same thing everyday, going to the same place everyday, why should it apply differently to a partner? It's good if you can do many different things with ur partner to lessen the boredom but most couples don't do that i guess. The moment you take ur partner for granted, that's when the boredom will set it. I think people accept the fact that relationships, especially the long ones, can be boring, thus they needed that 10% as stated earlier. Maybe that 10% can be once or twice a month. It's something to look forward to in your boring daily secured life.

5. Why is your relationship boring?

a. The frequent arguments.
b. The irritating attitude or habit of your partner.
c. The same routine everyday.
d. Nothing to talk about.
e. etc etc.

6. Because of these tiny irritating issues in your relationship, you have an affair so that you can just forget about these tiny issues temporarily. Duh, you were never going to be serious with that other person, it's just for fun. A fun in your boring daily hypocritical life.

Sex and Marriage

Hmmm people will probably wonder why am i blogging about marriage since i'm not married and have ZERO experience in marriage. Well, do you need to be a drug addict or an alcoholic first before you can say it's bad or not good? All you need is observations and stories that supports your observations to know it's true.

As a non married happily single person, i sit back and relax and come across married men who cheated and hear stories of married men who cheated. Basically my life is filled with real stories of people who have affairs.

Men who polygamy behind the wife's back is a form of indirect but legal cheating. Just because you can marry that whore behind my back LEGALLY you think you didn't cheat on me before you were married to her? All the "secret datings" with your new whore of a wife that eventually lead to your 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriage are cheatings. What makes you think cheating is only limited to SEX? For me, cheating is when you have feelings for another person and you actually went on dates with the person or you have sex with another person. But of course, secret polygamy is a form of cheating that makes a man less guilty for having cheated on his wife.

Lately i've been hearing stories of husbands being deprived months of no sex. That's quite sad especially if you are just in your 20's and 30's. Marriage is a symbiosis relationship. The husband look after the wife financially while the wife looks after the husband sexually. Why else do most men say that he will stop all his flirting and sleeping around before he gets married? He hopes that when he gets married, he'll get unlimited sex from his wife which will prevent him from sleeping around.

I don't know why the women refused to have sex with the husband.... The reason varies which includes no mood, just don't like sex, sleepy, not horny, husband not good in bed, etc. Well, husband not good in bed, that's a big problem which only can be settled between the partners themselves. How is it the husband is not good in bed? erectile dysfunction --> that should be your major concern. Husband not romantic enough? All these you need to point out because you are already married to him. I know it's embarrassing and awkward to talk about but sometimes you just have to sound like a mean bitch to get what you want. Then if you choose to keep quite bout it, you'll find another man to fulfill your lust?

As for women who just don't like the idea of sex, you'll just have to deal with it unless you don't mind your husband sleeping around because i think there are some women who don't mind. Why not? She gets to remain in the marriage and be financially supported while other women please her husband sexually, something which she is glad she doesn't have to do. That's what you call marriage without love. No jealousy, no love. But please don't be excessively jealous... that's bad and suffocating for the relationship.

Going back to men...
Those who are being deprived months of sex, i feel sorry for you but you just have to demand it from your wife. Cheating is not an option. If you want to cheat, better divorce.
On the other hand, some men are not deprived of sex from the wife but he simply wants to have have a string of affairs for the thrill of it. This is what you call fucked up assholes. This kind of species shouldn't be married in the first place.

Relationship is complicated and hard. When there's a problem, either you deal with it or you don't. If you choose to deal with it, your partner may be offended by the problem you have with him/her. But if you don't deal with that problem, it might cause you to have an affair with another person. Sometimes i think, if the problem is such a big thing to extend it can cause you to sleep with another person, why not just divorce/break it off with your partner? That my dear friends, is what you call being selfish. An affair is temporary but a partner is for a life time.

The way i look at relationships now a days, loyalty has been made redundant.

Thoughts In My Head - 28th May 2010

1. Woke up this morning feeling de ja vu.

2. Prince of Persia was a good movie. Jake Gyllenhaal is funny. Hot too but not hot enough to make me swoon like Micheal Ballack :L. You know, people can be typically beautiful or handsome but there are some that are "attractive". Attractive doesn't have to be good looking but there's something about that person's personality or particular unique look that makes you attract to them. Like Jake, he's not good looking but i find him attractive. The actor Bradley Cooper is good looking but i don't find him attractive. He reminds me of Hithrik Roshan (Bollywood actor). i don't watch Hindustan movies anymore. Find them irritating now.

3. So many married people are unfit to be married.

4. It's not your problem but you feel frustrated by it because you want justice to be done.

5. People with cheating spouses, are they so ignorant of reality that they fail to see their partner was cheating the whole time? I guess it's true, when you have a problem with your spouse, the best solution is to discuss it with them. But that was also one of the reasons why i broke up with my ex. We had a problem, he told me his problem with me, i acknowledged my flaw. I refused to change so hence, i told him better we break up. He didn't see that as a solution. Well, for me it's a straight forward and reasonable solution. What's the point of being together if that flaw of mine is causing us to argue frequently? Sure he says he will wait for years for me to change but did he ever think if i never change? And while waiting for the change, that flaw will be the cause of every argument. So doing everybody a favour and having the guts to find a solution, break up is the best. Some people seem to remain in relationships for a long time despite being unhappy because they hope and think things will change for the better. That's a risk. Gambling with the fact that your partner will change for the better.

6. Currently i'm still seeing my ex. People may find that weird. Honestly, i don't have an ounce of feelings towards him or intention of getting back to him (people don't believe me because most ex still have feelings for the ex. Not me, when i say i move on, i move on and behave like i move on). I go out with him because he asked me to and plus i'm still single. Of course i have to remind him constantly that no matter what he do, we will not be together. Am i using him? No. When we go out, i still pay some of the stuff. My friend was right when talking to him one day, he told me that when women sometimes pay for her share instead of letting the guy pay the whole thing every time, it gives the woman some kind of power over men, in other words, he's not 100% dominant over her.

7. I LOOOOOOVEEEEEEE GLEE.

8. I need to concentrate more on my studies.

9. I had a weird dream 2 nights ago but i can't remember. It was very weird and meaningless but interesting.

10. England, Brazil and Italy, you will never win World Cup 2010!!! I just need something to make it a 10 :D.

Men think they know everything?

Today is a funny day, while checking my Facebook, i came across 2 SAME QUESTIONS, basically a question posed by men why is it a "MYSTERY" a pretty woman is with a handsome man. Actually, even before coming across these 2 questions, several people kept on asking the same question. For me, it's not a mystery at all (this doesn't imply i'm a know it all ok ;)!

It's a common sight where you see young women are with an old man or a pretty woman with an ugly man. I'm a woman, so i know the reasons. In the end, we women prefer a financially stable man compare to a good looking man. Good looking men are just for entertainment and amusement. If you watch Desperate Housewives, you will know what i mean. Look at the character name Gabriel Solis, a pretty ex model who is married to an overweight, not so hot but kind hearted rich man name Carlos. Though being married to him, she has a scandalous affair with her young, good looking, sexy and hot gardener. Of course after she was caught with the affair, she finally regret being foolish not to appreciate her husband and hence chose her husband. Not a surprising decision anyway if the woman was SMART. Why choose a poorly paid good looking guy if you can have a rich not so good looking man? After all, who will pay for her makeup, expansive and luxurious stuff but not the partner with tons of money? Men love sex, women love many expansive things.

And when you talk about men, men are always associated with pretty and sexy women. Playboy, Motor or car magazines with scantily dressed women, car racing and motor GP with those umbrella girls and promote cars also involved women scantily dressed. Talk shows or game shows involved pretty women wherelse the host is an old man or just a normal looking guy. So you see how much emphasis is being made for a woman to be pretty or sexy in the commercial industry or men stuff? Now tell me, can you find things which women are interested in where a good looking or half naked man is being used to supposedly lured them to buy the items? No. There's no half naked men promoting women's handbags or shoes but you have half naked women promoting beers and sport stuff for men.

Men need beautiful women. Men go gaga at beautiful women. Men feel so proud and mighty in the presence of beautiful women. They bragged when they are with beautiful women. Basically, they treat women like sex objects or trophies to make their friends or the world jealous. I mean, you look at porn. Most of the women are heavily clad with makeup and silicones to make themselves look beautiful. It's either you are hot or pretty or both. Very rare to find an overweight or ugly woman to star in porn movies. Now, there a lots of porn which involved ugly men or not so hot men. And really, who cares because majority watching porn are men so the women got to be beautiful. Perhaps when the men is ugly it boost the male viewer's self esteem :|.

Thus, my ultimate theory : men find it a mystery that pretty women are with ugly men because men are in fact the ones who are superficial (most ok). They love pretty women, thus they think women should love handsome men. Well, sorry to burst your bubbles. We rather settle for a man who can give us security (the smart ones anyway who thinks of her future). In the animal kingdom, a female will only mate with a male who she thinks has good genes, thus the male have to be the alpha male and the strongest among the rest of the males. The good genes is to ensure the offsprings will be strong and healthy. So a pretty boy is basically useless. Beauty is only temporary.

You men are actually no different. You will settle down for marriage with a good woman but have affairs with young pretty women, prostitutes, GRO, etc.