Young Bride

Marriage is my right, says 14-year-old Maya

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What is WRONG with this picture?

1. OBVIOUSLY a 14 year old getting married. She's not even done with her studies. She's not even halfway done with her studies.

2. She's 14, and he' 23. 9 years age difference. it's not a problem if the girl was older, like 20 and he's 29 because it's ASSUMED that by then she already reached a mature mind. So it's ok if a 14 year old gets married if she's MENTALLY and PHYSICALLY MATURE? Not really. You can't really measure a person's maturity. But that's why you have juvenile and adult offenders because it's assumed that when you reached 18, you should be responsible for your actions. So regardless whether you are mature or not at 18, you will be tried as an adult. But if you are a 14 year old offender but a genius criminal offender, perhaps even mature beyond your age, you will still be tried as a juvenile offender because there's still an assumption that you haven't reach the age of majority and that you are just a young offender. So is it right for young teens to get married and asked to be treated like an adult, claiming they are mature but yet face the consequences of their bad decisions as a young teen and not as an adult? People will defend them and say "but he/she is just a childdddd"...

3. If you choose to get married, shouldn't you be INDEPENDENT? Have your own place, not depending on parents, etc. There don't know what is the hardship of a marriage as long as they are still staying with the parents. Besides, is it healthy if your parents are involved in your marriage? Interfering here and there?

4. Being a married woman means you need to look after your husband and his needs. What does a married woman do? Work, clean the house, cook for the husband, fulfill her husband's sexual desire. So her mother will do the house cleaning and cooking while she will be busy preparing for exams and night time be with her husband? Even SOME adult married woman who is working need the assistance of a maid to look after the house. And despite that, when they come back from work, they r too tired to entertain the husband. One of the factors why some marriages end up with divorces.

5. Parents always try to prevent their children from being in a relationship while they are still studying. Some parents are so carefree and so called open minded that they think it's cool if their 13 year old child has a bf/gf. Why won't parents allow their children to be in a relationship while studying? Well, relationship can be distracting to your studies. God knows, when you and your partner have a fight, for some young emo people, they think the world is going to end and thus can't concentrate on their studies. Marriage is a big responsibility.

6. With this current 14 old girl girl's case, people think they are an ideal couple because the guy seems to be "islamic" since he's tutoring religion to the girl's siblings. That is also the explanation on how they met. Yeah, he's so professional too. Tutor + flirting. You know, people always like to use RELIGION as a defence to something as controversial as this. they think, oh the girl and the guy are religiously well taught, marriage shouldn't be a problem. With the knowledge of religion, the relationship should be blessed. Did you hear of the story when the ustazah was caught having an affair and she claims she's unhappy with her husband? Mind you, that's an USTAZAH you are talking about.

7. Would there be a bigger uproar to this controversial marriage if the guy was perhaps 30, 40 or even 50 while the girl is still 14 years old? Why should there be any difference if you claim that the girl is a 14 year old mature girl? Maybe some people are so so with this marriage because the age difference isn't that great, just 9 years. But the main issue here is that most people are unhappy because the child is just a child. And who cares if she's not forced to get married? People will attack her parents anyway.

8. If every 14 year old claims they are mature enough to get married, why is there a need to rate movies as to whether its contents are suitable for underage viewers or not. I can be a 14 year old and i can claim i'm mature enough to watch a movie that contents sex and violence.

9. Yeah, i read somewhere that in Islam, there is no AGE LIMIT to getting married. This will be some of the defending arguments that will be used by Muslims who wants to get married below the age of majority. Use your common sense people, don't make the religion look bad.

10. The concept of pedophile will be made redundant if this kind of young marriage trend were to continue. What is a PEDOPHILE? Dictionary.com --> a person who is sexually attracted to children. A man can disguise his pedophile tendencies by disguising his relationship with a child as a MARRIAGE. You know, if it's OKAY for a 14 year old to get married, why not an 8, 9, 10 or 12 year old. Some girls already get their period even at the age of 5.

11. And what kind of a man let themselves have "FEELINGS" for children? Don't you have an age limit on what kind of people who you can flirt with?

Permission needed for underaged marriage: Syariah Court Chief Judge

Permission needed for underaged marriage: Syariah Court Chief Judge


So let me get this straight. If you are an underage person (in Kelantan), and want to get married, all you need to do is ...
1. Get permission or exception from kadi and give REASONABLE GROUNDS.
2. The pair have sufficient maturity and fertility.

What is wrong with this picture?

How in the hell in the first place can you be in love with an 11 year old (the case involved an 11 year old marrying a 40 year old man)? How in the hell a 40 year old is friends with an 11 year old unless they have family ties? Did they go on frequent dates and thus fall in love? What in the hell were the parents of the girl doing all this while?

One of the conditions for underage marriage is the pair have "sufficient maturity and fertility". No doubt the guy can fulfill this. As for the 11 year old girl, what is fertility? I assumed the moment the girl start having her 1st period since period indicates the girl is able to conceive a child. A girl as young as 8 years old can have period. But just because you are fertile, doesn't mean you are mature.

So how do you determine maturity? It's a very subjective thing. Are you matured enough if you can tell the difference between right and wrong? Or that you are able to make REASONABLE decisions like NOT GETTING MARRIED AT SUCH AN AGE. What is maturity? You can be a super genius (like that Adiputra boy who is a maths genius) but does that mean you are mature? Most people look mature physically but their minds and thinking are not mature.

What makes you think a child is mature? You give him/her 100 questions on general knowledge on life and see how she answers and hence, you can determine her maturity?

You can marry at a young age but NOT THAT FREAKING YOUNG no matter how mature you are. What, is she so damn horny that she needs to get married in order not to commit sins? She has a long way to complete her education. Are you telling me she will study during day time and then go back home, clean the house and prepare food for the husband. And what happens if she's going to have children? Forsake your education and be pregnant for the next 9 months?

What is marriage? The woman has to perform her duty as a wife while the husband has to perform his duty as a husband. You are going to let a 11 year old to cook and clean the whole house? Then when the husband comes back fulfill his needs and desire? Or perhaps the husband can claim his 11 year old bride can pursue her education and he won't interfere by giving her a lot of house chores. So really, what's the purpose and objective of marrying a 11 year old? All i see is that the husband will provide love and care for the underage wife while all she need to do is just be with him.

People, why are you encouraging children to fall in love? Am i the only one who sees a problem in this? I can't remember what's the statutory rape age here in Malaysia, below 16? or below 18? I think it's below 18. So why allow a person below the age of 18 to have bf or mix around with boys?

Now a days i see 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15 year olds have bfs and gfs. So why do society want to act so surprise if these people get raped, have child out of wedlock or get married or run off with their bfs? You allow such thing in the first place so be prepared for the consequences.

I was an 11 year old once. People say i was matured for my age (yes i look bigger and taller and whatever it is) and when i was in my early teens, some say i have a mature thinking. But now, being 24 years old, my maturity now is so much different compare to those years back then. Yes, in some way i was mature back then but i was very naive and stupid and too trustworthy, wanted to try everything and feeling my parents are holding me back. Im just glad that i never did anything seriously stupid back then and only at this age i can truly appreciate what my parents tried to do for me back then. I never appreciated my parents much when i was in my early teen years. That's why children need to be controlled. Controlled since they are young because once they reach 18 years old or older, it's a presumption they will be mature. At least this is a form of safety precaution.