Today is a funny day, while checking my Facebook, i came across 2 SAME QUESTIONS, basically a question posed by men why is it a "MYSTERY" a pretty woman is with a handsome man. Actually, even before coming across these 2 questions, several people kept on asking the same question. For me, it's not a mystery at all (this doesn't imply i'm a know it all ok ;)!
It's a common sight where you see young women are with an old man or a pretty woman with an ugly man. I'm a woman, so i know the reasons. In the end, we women prefer a financially stable man compare to a good looking man. Good looking men are just for entertainment and amusement. If you watch Desperate Housewives, you will know what i mean. Look at the character name Gabriel Solis, a pretty ex model who is married to an overweight, not so hot but kind hearted rich man name Carlos. Though being married to him, she has a scandalous affair with her young, good looking, sexy and hot gardener. Of course after she was caught with the affair, she finally regret being foolish not to appreciate her husband and hence chose her husband. Not a surprising decision anyway if the woman was SMART. Why choose a poorly paid good looking guy if you can have a rich not so good looking man? After all, who will pay for her makeup, expansive and luxurious stuff but not the partner with tons of money? Men love sex, women love many expansive things.
And when you talk about men, men are always associated with pretty and sexy women. Playboy, Motor or car magazines with scantily dressed women, car racing and motor GP with those umbrella girls and promote cars also involved women scantily dressed. Talk shows or game shows involved pretty women wherelse the host is an old man or just a normal looking guy. So you see how much emphasis is being made for a woman to be pretty or sexy in the commercial industry or men stuff? Now tell me, can you find things which women are interested in where a good looking or half naked man is being used to supposedly lured them to buy the items? No. There's no half naked men promoting women's handbags or shoes but you have half naked women promoting beers and sport stuff for men.
Men need beautiful women. Men go gaga at beautiful women. Men feel so proud and mighty in the presence of beautiful women. They bragged when they are with beautiful women. Basically, they treat women like sex objects or trophies to make their friends or the world jealous. I mean, you look at porn. Most of the women are heavily clad with makeup and silicones to make themselves look beautiful. It's either you are hot or pretty or both. Very rare to find an overweight or ugly woman to star in porn movies. Now, there a lots of porn which involved ugly men or not so hot men. And really, who cares because majority watching porn are men so the women got to be beautiful. Perhaps when the men is ugly it boost the male viewer's self esteem :|.
Thus, my ultimate theory : men find it a mystery that pretty women are with ugly men because men are in fact the ones who are superficial (most ok). They love pretty women, thus they think women should love handsome men. Well, sorry to burst your bubbles. We rather settle for a man who can give us security (the smart ones anyway who thinks of her future). In the animal kingdom, a female will only mate with a male who she thinks has good genes, thus the male have to be the alpha male and the strongest among the rest of the males. The good genes is to ensure the offsprings will be strong and healthy. So a pretty boy is basically useless. Beauty is only temporary.
You men are actually no different. You will settle down for marriage with a good woman but have affairs with young pretty women, prostitutes, GRO, etc.
I'll admit a few things. Beautiful women are a sight to look at.
ReplyDeleteBut for me, there's a difference.
I can only ogle so much until all that beauty is gone and buried into the ground. But whats forever, is a lady's intelligence. Its neverending. It is eternal. That is the hardest thing to look for in a woman. Because she can be so beautiful on the outside, but everything is full of crap.
Men are worst though. haha.
i guess most men don't appreciate intelligent women, especially if he's dumb :-D...
ReplyDeletebut it's human nature to show off.. if a guy gets
a beautiful gf, he can show off to everyone..
but intelligence u can't show off.. unless the qualifications are being asked.
And i believed most men don't like COMPLICATED stuff. intelligent women = complicated (debate, think too much, stubborn)...
less intelligent women = just agrees with everything the guy says.. this way, the guy will feel more superior.
Personally i think that a woman still can be with a man even if she earns more than him and have higher qualification. Just don't lower his self esteem, especially degrade him to the public (very common in marriages).
Exactly. Frankly, i can also say that I know certain women also use men as their trophy husband. good looking and, nice earning and everything but just a trophy. Much like what guys do. I don't get the obsession. Both are dumb in this case. Give equal amounts of respect and they'll definitely gain a lot more.
ReplyDeleteIntelligence is a sexy thing. its private. Not only does it help the man do choose something better, but it gives a woman the ability to partake. I treasure intelligent woman more than a girl who shows off everything she has. Especially if the woman is in way too much superficial make up and padding. Geez, hardly could people be themselves nowadays.
I'd rather fight intelligently in a debate with a woman. If either sex just agrees to everything one party says, what's the point? Linearity is boring. I like my life spiced with a view from a woman any day then listening to her say yes all the time. :P
Best example we both could give is definitely Saidatina Khatijah. Successful business woman and totally blesses our Prophet. Bless both their souls for working out an awesome marriage. :)
n that's a real marriage.. he only started polygamy after her death.. and those polygamy were justified unlike polygamy these days...
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