When there are good news, people like to tell. When there are bad news, people like to keep quiet. There's nothing wrong to share good news with people but some people share good news with the intention of SHOWING OFF. How do you know? Sometimes you can just tell by the way the person is telling you of the good news. And because when you know the person is trying to show off, it irritates you. Example of showing off? You can say your daughter is getting married but in addition to that, you added that she's getting married to a rich man or a so called "anak dato". That my dear friends, is showing off in disguise.
Sometimes showing off happens when you tell people a certain info voluntarily without being asked. Then again, whether the person is showing off or is genuinely trying to tell you of something good happening to them, it will depend on the circumstances of the situation. Perhaps when the good news or voluntarily giving info of good news is always frequent, it'll tend to look like showing off.
As for bad news, people don't want to share bad news for the obvious reasons, it's embarrassing and humiliating. Since i'm a student, the common example i can give you is when a person show off she has good results but when her results are bad, she keeps quiet about it. Don't you just hate people who, after finding out her result is good, she goes around calling people and asking what are their results but if her results are bad, she won't call any of her friends because she's afraid her friends will ask her results.
For me, i keep a simple principle, tell when you are asked. But if you want to show off in your social network or blogs, go ahead, it's yours anyway right? And people will only know about it if they bother to read bout it.
Because of an incident when this person thinks that i'm showing off just because i have new things and asked her what she thinks of it, i never bother to ask people's opinion that often any more. Hell, my genuine intention was to ask what she really thinks of the new shoes or clothes that i bought. Not to show off i have a lot of money and can buy it. So right now, if someone noticed that i have something new and asked about it, only then i will further ask what she/he thinks of it.
As for bad things, if something bad happened to me, of course i'll keep quiet but if people ask, i'll answer instead of avoiding people in hopes that i don't have to answer any so called "controversial" questions about my life. I don't see the point of hiding something bad because in the end people will know about it and people will bitched even more since you LIED to them when they inquired to you about it. Hence, don't pretend as if your life is blessed with perfection and show it off to the public while keeping quiet about bad stuff, it'll only give others more reason to attack you. Sometimes what's bad to others you can somehow make it look good for yourself ;-). Of course, if something is personal, you shouldn't tell, be it good or bad.
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