Why do people want to break up with you?
1. There's no future between the both of you.
2. Your partner is sick and tired of you.
3. Family disapprove of your relationship (this is so old fashion).
4. Your partner don't love you.
5. Third party.
6. And many more.
I've heard of the phrases "love you enough to let you go" or "do you love me enough to let me go". Personally for me, the MORE ACCURATE PHRASE is "I love myself enough to let you go". Why this phrase?
1. Everyone has their dignity. If somebody don't love you, or stopped loving you and says this straight to your face and if you cherish your dignity, you'll let that person go instead of begging that person for second chances. Don't stalk that person, don't say i love you to that person, don't try to fix things when your partner already gave you the ultimatum, don't do anything to jeopardize your dignity.
2. For those who have been CHEATED. i know some of you out there have the heart of an angel to the extent that you are willing to forgive your partner despite catching your partner with another person behind your back. Congrats, you are truly a saint! As for the rest of you out there, why don't just end it? there will be trust issues in the future if you were to continue the relationship. this happens because you never really forgive your partner but yet you don't have the guts to go through a breakup or another breakup. If you love yourself enough, break up with the cheater and find a loyal partner. why stick with a cheater, hoping that your partner really will change? There's a 50-50 chance your partner will or will not change.
3. If you think you are being treated like crap by your partner, then why not break up? I've seen idiotic people who are still in a relationship despite having partners that are abusive. Your partner is treating you like an object instead of a human. he doesn't have any respect for you. You know why? Why should anyone respect you if you let yourself be abused in some where? The more you do it, the more the person wants to abuse you. Abusive doesn't have to be beating you up badly, it can mean treating you roughly. Like the other day, i saw this couple arguing (i assume it's a couple and not brothers and sister), then i saw the guy pushed the girl roughly and walked away. If i was the girl, i will definitely dumped the bastard. A guy can say something mean to me and i can still tolerate with it but the moment he touches me roughly, i'll give him a bitch slap he'll never forget. Correction, punch pls. or a kick in the balls.
From my relationship experiences, i never think of myself being mean and selfish for asking a break up. i used to love my partner, then things started to turned sour. tried to solve the problem, but it couldn't be solved. I have no patience with the problems especially if it's an occurring problem. i find myself starting to love my partner less, find him more irritating and annoying. I tried to control myself from having these feelings, unfortunately it only got worst. because i don't love my partner anymore, i allowed myself to be friendly with other guys. The moment i find myself trying to distance myself from my partner, the more i realized it's time to break up. So better break up before i do anything stupid like cheating.
So in what way am i being selfish and mean to my ex partner? Instead of continuing the relationship, i choose to break up because whether or not i have a replacement for him, it's irrelevant. I didn't break up because of a third party, i broke up because i know i don't love him anyone and am capable of cheating if the relationship were to continue.
Some feelings can be controlled while some can't. You can never force someone to love you, neither could you make yourself try to love someone. So why get all hysterical about being a victim of a break up UNLESS you are cheated on? It's nothing extraordinary why a person stopped loving you, it could be for many reasons.
Now, the real bad ass people are those who choose to remain in a relationship, pretending there are no problems in the relationship and pretending that he or she is not annoyed by the problems in the relationship. Because of the problems that he choose to ignored, he seeks comfort in another person, hence the affairs and cheating...
It's easier said than done. but i've been there before. it hurts to ignore someone you really like or love but because i love myself more and don't want to look desperate, i can ignore that person easily. It takes strong will and a strong heart but it eventually pays off when you don't even remember that person.
Awesome break-down of why someone should break up with their partner if there are trust issues or they just aren't in love anymore. Thanks for putting the focus on the breaker, not the breakee. It's true that it's OK to be selfish in love when it comes to your own happiness.
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