Pretentious Relationships

1. Do we remain in an unhappy relationship out of obligation?
2. Are we in a relationship to cover up something?
3. Are we just plain lazy to start over a new relationship when the current one seems to be failing?
4. Are we in an unhappy relationship because we have HIGH TOLERANCE towards things which we are not happy about?

The longest relationship that i had was 2 years ++. When im in love, im really really in love. And when i'm NOT in love, im really really really not in love. When im not happy in a relationship, i choose to do something about it. First i try to SOLVE the problem. If i can't, i try to ACCEPT the problem, and if i still can't, i END the problem a.k.a BREAK UP.

When it comes to solving, both parties have to try solving it. When one refuses to change, then the other have to accept. The person who tries to accept have to be very tolerant and patient. Hence, if he or she isn't patient enough, hence the break up which is the ULTIMATUM.

I don't want to be in an unhappy relationship where i don't feel the love that i had before towards my partner. Once you don't feel the love, you know very well you have to end it. If i choose to be in that unhappy relationship, i will have to put up with the annoying things and frustration which are the causes of my unhappiness. Rather than putting up with these nonsense, i rather be ALONE. And that's the problem with people. They are afraid to be alone and don't want to be alone. For them, better have an annoying partner than be alone.

Sure you are in a relationship, sure you are married, but are you happy? If you are happy, we do you need to do things behind your partners back? Why do you still choose to sleep around despite being in a relationship? Won't you do your partner a favour if you just break up with him/her and then do whatever it is that you want to do that you can't do because you are in a relationship?

If you can't commit, why pretend to commit? If you are a womanizer, why even bother to be in a relationship? Sure you think you would change if you are married, but if you still didn't change, don't you think the better option is to end that relationship? But instead you prefer to live by the rule "what you don't know won't hurt you".

When i choose to break up, i think i'm doing my ex a favour although it may look as if im an impatient mean bitchy. Firstly, it's easy to accept a break up when it's still in its early stages, like if the relationship is less than 3 years. Secondly, when you are no longer in love with your partner, you will have the tendency to stray off, being attracted to another person who you most definitely will think is 100% better than your pain in the pass current partner that always make you unhappy. Because i don't want to have an affair while with my partner, might as well i end that relationship and then be with someone new because if i actually continue with that unhappy relationship and along came a person who i really like, it would look as if i choose to end the relationship because of this new person, where else the fact is i already decided that the relationship was doomed long time ago when the burning passion of love for my partner had died out.

Some people choose to be in unhappy relationship because they are scared they can't find a replacement. As far as i'm concern, regardless whether i can find a better man than my ex, i'll end the relationship anyway because the MAIN REASON why i break up is because i find it useless to be in a relationship with someone i don't love. And i really don't care if i'm not able to be in a relationship after the break up. It's a risk that i can live with and i have no regrets for the past.