Permission needed for underaged marriage: Syariah Court Chief Judge
So let me get this straight. If you are an underage person (in Kelantan), and want to get married, all you need to do is ...
1. Get permission or exception from kadi and give REASONABLE GROUNDS.
2. The pair have sufficient maturity and fertility.
What is wrong with this picture?
How in the hell in the first place can you be in love with an 11 year old (the case involved an 11 year old marrying a 40 year old man)? How in the hell a 40 year old is friends with an 11 year old unless they have family ties? Did they go on frequent dates and thus fall in love? What in the hell were the parents of the girl doing all this while?
One of the conditions for underage marriage is the pair have "sufficient maturity and fertility". No doubt the guy can fulfill this. As for the 11 year old girl, what is fertility? I assumed the moment the girl start having her 1st period since period indicates the girl is able to conceive a child. A girl as young as 8 years old can have period. But just because you are fertile, doesn't mean you are mature.
So how do you determine maturity? It's a very subjective thing. Are you matured enough if you can tell the difference between right and wrong? Or that you are able to make REASONABLE decisions like NOT GETTING MARRIED AT SUCH AN AGE. What is maturity? You can be a super genius (like that Adiputra boy who is a maths genius) but does that mean you are mature? Most people look mature physically but their minds and thinking are not mature.
What makes you think a child is mature? You give him/her 100 questions on general knowledge on life and see how she answers and hence, you can determine her maturity?
You can marry at a young age but NOT THAT FREAKING YOUNG no matter how mature you are. What, is she so damn horny that she needs to get married in order not to commit sins? She has a long way to complete her education. Are you telling me she will study during day time and then go back home, clean the house and prepare food for the husband. And what happens if she's going to have children? Forsake your education and be pregnant for the next 9 months?
What is marriage? The woman has to perform her duty as a wife while the husband has to perform his duty as a husband. You are going to let a 11 year old to cook and clean the whole house? Then when the husband comes back fulfill his needs and desire? Or perhaps the husband can claim his 11 year old bride can pursue her education and he won't interfere by giving her a lot of house chores. So really, what's the purpose and objective of marrying a 11 year old? All i see is that the husband will provide love and care for the underage wife while all she need to do is just be with him.
People, why are you encouraging children to fall in love? Am i the only one who sees a problem in this? I can't remember what's the statutory rape age here in Malaysia, below 16? or below 18? I think it's below 18. So why allow a person below the age of 18 to have bf or mix around with boys?
Now a days i see 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15 year olds have bfs and gfs. So why do society want to act so surprise if these people get raped, have child out of wedlock or get married or run off with their bfs? You allow such thing in the first place so be prepared for the consequences.
I was an 11 year old once. People say i was matured for my age (yes i look bigger and taller and whatever it is) and when i was in my early teens, some say i have a mature thinking. But now, being 24 years old, my maturity now is so much different compare to those years back then. Yes, in some way i was mature back then but i was very naive and stupid and too trustworthy, wanted to try everything and feeling my parents are holding me back. Im just glad that i never did anything seriously stupid back then and only at this age i can truly appreciate what my parents tried to do for me back then. I never appreciated my parents much when i was in my early teen years. That's why children need to be controlled. Controlled since they are young because once they reach 18 years old or older, it's a presumption they will be mature. At least this is a form of safety precaution.
You say "You can marry at a young age but NOT THAT FREAKING YOUNG no matter how mature you are."
ReplyDeleteso are you the one to determine that age when a woman can get married?
you mention education. Education is very important. If husband is a good person he can help in his wife's education. Do the schools, as we know them, really educate? I would like you to listen to this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bYmpoRBXgVM
im not the one who will determine the REASONABLE age a woman should get married. Perhaps there would be a study at what age a woman (MAJORITY) reaches the so called maturity in mind. when do u think the husband has the time to teach his wife? he'll be working during day time, so you mean he'll teach her at night? Do you think all husbands can teach every subject, especially science? he can teach english, religous knowledge and basic maths but what about the rest? What happens when the husband dies (bearing in mind if he's in his 40's or 50's and probability of dying is HIGHER and the girl is only 11 years old)? who will look after the child that lacks education? had the child been given enough and proper education, she wouldn't be "so lost". as for the video that you want me to listen to, i will comment bout it in my next blog post.
ReplyDeletei think i just answer it hear in regards to the public school video which i watched. is this vid just referring to public schools in USA or all public schools all over the world? As far as i know, US people themselves and people around the world have always come up with all kinds of conspiracies against US government. Mostly because of the influence the Jews have over the government. Really, i want to know what is the IDEAL education system? i have no prob with the way the public school is running. The prob with most people is that they are NOT DISCIPLINE, when they are not disciplined, they can't tolerate a system that has strict discipline. What is wrong with going to classes from 7am to 1pm 5 or 6 times a week? Or making you sing patriotic kind of songs (i think it's lame but there's no harm). i love my country but im not that patriotic to the extend of wanting to do patriotic activities. The vid also shows some students being ABUSED. I would think the teacher is to be BLAMED PERSONALLY, not the system. There are bad and good teachers out there. Have you seen how rude and evil students can behave? the guy in the vid says that students in public schools are not allowed to think analytically or out of the box and not allowed to voice their opinion. As far as i am concerned, you go to school to learn, not to question education system or the government system. Ask relevant questions regarding the subjects, not questions regarding government. And the guy say it's USELESS to study maths? Since im not in the field of science, i don't know how relevant maths can be in life but im pretty sure it's VERY RELEVANT to science and engineering students. But what i've learnt in public school through out my primary and secondary years, there have been some applications in life. Doesn't mean you go to school you will have successul careers. I've seen dropouts who are successful. But bear in mind that some of these dropouts are born naturally street wise or genius, hence their success. Not all educated people can be successful and not all uneducated people are failures. Proper education is a security for your future.
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