Parenting

i just felt like blogging on this matter because lately in Malaysia, there have been a lot of cases of child being abused to death or newborns murdered to cover up the fact that the woman had a child out of wedlock.

As for me, my dream to become a parent is only 10%. I know myself way too well to know that i'm still not ready to be a parent because it's a hard job. Being a parent requires A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITIES. Not only must you have the financial means but you must have the parenting skills. Strict and disciplined parenting skills.

I was having my dinner at KFC yesterday when i saw this little girl, who's less than 5 years old, had her hair dyed. More like highlight because only one part of her hair that is dyed like blondish colour. I don't think it's proper to dye the hair of a little girl. Firstly because dyeing hair is unhealthy and secondly it just doesn't seem right for a little girl to do what mostly adults are doing. Even in secondary schools you are not allowed to dye your hair. Plus dyeing the wrong colour and which doesn't suit you will just make you end up looking like a prostitute.

At times i would see parents dressed up their children like 'mini sluts'. Skirts which are too short, tubes, halter tops or really very short tight shorts. Why do you want to dress your child like this? Once your child is old enough, she'll dress like that if she decides to. doing this is like training her to like this kind of fashion. Some parents think it's harmless to dress your child is such a way because they don't have developed sexual parts. Regardless of that, you'll only attract the unnecessary attention of pedophiles which is lurking silently among us.

Sometimes i just feel beyond irritated when i see children already behaving like adults by the way they talk. Talking as if they are some kind of character from that lame High School musical show.

Then you have parents who simply let their children walk alone, especially on their way back to school. Occasionally i would see primary school children walking back alone, some alone and some in groups of 2 or 4. You think walking in a group is safe? Your child is small, any adult can overpower them, especially if the adult is big and strong. And you expect society to feel sorry when your child is kidnapped? You knew very well there's such danger existing yet you decided to take that risk anyway because you don't have the time to pick or send your child to schools. Or don't have the money to provide transportation for your child.

The most irritating thing of all is that some parents produce soooooooooooooo many children despite not having the financial means to take care of the children. Why people? Why? some gave lame and stupid excuses like "anak tu rezeki Tuhan"... of course children are blessings from God but you need to take initiatives not to get pregnant if you know you can't afford to have another child. God won't simply BURDEN you with another child. If you keep having sex without precautions, of course you are bound to be pregnant.


In this modern time, it's hard to raise a child. Of course it's easing to raise a child at the early years but once a child is entering his/her teen years, it's a matter for survival for your child and yourself as a parent. I was a teen before, and i didn't had it easy for me nor did i make it easy for my dad. At this age of 24, i'm so much matured than when i was 15, 16 or 17 (a difficult stage of growing up). I realized all the stupid mistakes i did in those teen years and was lucky enough to get away with it. My dad was a bad tempered person at that time which made it difficult for me but now he's less bad tempered and i have become more understanding.

People never think and plan before having children. Hence, the later difficulties they faced when bringing up one.