And so it seems that I'm very active in talking about cheating and affairs... not thanks to the kind of people that i've met, stories I've heard and Hollywood news where recently it was alleged that Sandra Bullock's husband has 11 mistresses. I love Sandra but she's stupid for marrying a guy which she is aware who's FIRST WIFE was a PORNSTAR. Sandra is a sweetheart, she's no match to a pornstar. And a guy who married a pornstar tells you a lot about him. Hell, one of the 11 mistresses he had is a porn star. Sandra should have seen it coming. But she's still pretty and hot for her age, she can find a better man.
So the ROOT of cheating? SEX. When men are accused of cheating, 99.9% (yes, i have a habit of giving figures to make it sound more dramatic) of them will always sleep with their mistresses. Have you heard of a man who cheats but never sleeps with the other woman? NooOoO... Do you think he just go out for lunch, dinner or a movie with the other woman without sleeping with her? Some cheat just for the sake of getting laid. No strings attached. Some have sex, watch movies, go out on dates with their mistresses. But there's only ONE thing in COMMON, they will most DEFINITELY sleep with that other woman.
Let's trace back to why he sleep with the other woman while being married to another woman or attached to a long term gf :
1. Not getting sex in the marriage.
2. The sex is boring.
3. Not getting enough attention from partner.
And if a guy is actually serious with his mistress and it goes beyond just sex, he'll end up marrying that woman (i'm only talking about LEGAL POLYGAMY). Sometimes it made me wonder, which is better : he actually LOVE his mistress and marries that woman OR that he doesn't love his mistress and just have casual sex with her?
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Cheating Men...
I'm grateful for social networkings like facebook, myspace, friendster etc... it allows you to get to know people without having to meet them face to face. And truth to be told, people on social networking are more honest then when they are in person, especially if they don't put up their pictures so people won't know their identities. And it's true, some people use social networking as a tool to get laid.
Why do i want to know these kind of people? As a general knowledge of what kind of people are out there. Why do they do the things they do. People are more willing to tell their secrets to strangers than to those who they know. With such knowledge, comes the downside too. Im starting to distrust men more and more and i'm always skeptical of their intentions. But as for now, i can live with that since i'm not attached to anyone. So what kind of people have i come across?
1. A guy who just got married but has the urge to go out with other women. He's been with this girl for 8 years ++ before they got hitched. I asked him why he do it? For fun. But of course he's being very careful. He never checks his email or his social networking profile at home. All these are done while at work.
2. A guy who just got a baby with his wife yet sleep with another woman. Baby alone is not enough to keep a guy on a leash because MOST women think that's it. It's pretty stupid of them. That's why some women have so many children, thinking their husband won't leave them. Of course their husband won't leave them but it won't prevent them from sleeping around. This is 40% woman's fault and 60% man's fault. Men want to have frequent sex, but the women doesn't want. That's when the men will stray. But if men have been thinking with their brains instead of with their PENIS, once a week of sex is better than once a month or none at all. QUESTION : Men, can you stand going to the mall with your wife everyday?
3. Long distance relationships. 90% of it ends up with one of the partners sleeping around while still with the gf/bf. Love is great, but not great enough to stop you from sleeping around.
My blog may be bias but me being a girl, i'm only talking from a girl's perspective. As a girl, i'm bound to meet a lot of cheating men then women. Of course, if you are a guy, you will say there's a lot of cheating women. Well, that's for you to blog about :-). Also, both men and women may cheat but MEN CHEAT MORE... and you have prostitutes to thank for this crap.
Why do i want to know these kind of people? As a general knowledge of what kind of people are out there. Why do they do the things they do. People are more willing to tell their secrets to strangers than to those who they know. With such knowledge, comes the downside too. Im starting to distrust men more and more and i'm always skeptical of their intentions. But as for now, i can live with that since i'm not attached to anyone. So what kind of people have i come across?
1. A guy who just got married but has the urge to go out with other women. He's been with this girl for 8 years ++ before they got hitched. I asked him why he do it? For fun. But of course he's being very careful. He never checks his email or his social networking profile at home. All these are done while at work.
2. A guy who just got a baby with his wife yet sleep with another woman. Baby alone is not enough to keep a guy on a leash because MOST women think that's it. It's pretty stupid of them. That's why some women have so many children, thinking their husband won't leave them. Of course their husband won't leave them but it won't prevent them from sleeping around. This is 40% woman's fault and 60% man's fault. Men want to have frequent sex, but the women doesn't want. That's when the men will stray. But if men have been thinking with their brains instead of with their PENIS, once a week of sex is better than once a month or none at all. QUESTION : Men, can you stand going to the mall with your wife everyday?
3. Long distance relationships. 90% of it ends up with one of the partners sleeping around while still with the gf/bf. Love is great, but not great enough to stop you from sleeping around.
My blog may be bias but me being a girl, i'm only talking from a girl's perspective. As a girl, i'm bound to meet a lot of cheating men then women. Of course, if you are a guy, you will say there's a lot of cheating women. Well, that's for you to blog about :-). Also, both men and women may cheat but MEN CHEAT MORE... and you have prostitutes to thank for this crap.
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Memory of a death of a cat...
Somehow today, i recalled back what happened to my cat long time ago. She was my favourite because she was very affectionate. Her name was Tigress. She was just a normal stray cat which i picked up but she was beautiful because i love her fur pattern. She looks something like this cat:
I had her when i was around 10 or 11 years old. I remembered the date because it happened on my dad's birthday and 2 days before my birthday. It happened on 18th January.
That year, my parents decide to have a birthday party for me and my bro, whose birthday is also in January.
That time, my parents were divorced but my cat was living with my dad and occasionally i and my bro will stay with my dad, i think it's during the weekends. That afternoon, my mom and i just got back from the clothes shop where i bought the clothes that i was suppose to wear for my birthday party.
After that, we decide to stop by my dad's house to get some things and to look at the cat. She will come running to me whenever she sees me or when i call her, that's why i love her. I always have the habit of looking under the car to make sure there were no cats under it once the engine starts because i've seen a lot of cats that are being ran over just because they slept near the car tire and it happened a few times to my Grandma's cats since she has many cats.
That day, my mom didn't even park her car inside the house, she parked outside of the gate. My mom and i were in the car when i looked at my cat, who was at the balcony of the house. Then i looked away, my mom started the car. The moment we moved, we heard some kind of crunching sound, as if the tire ran over something. I immediately felt fear and i looked at the side view mirror and that's when i saw my cat, jumping up and down like crazy.
I have tears in my eyes just remembering it now. Every time i recall the accident, it just made me really sad and depressed.
It was the most awful thing i have seen. My cat was in a lot of pain, there was blood every where. I was crying and screaming. My mom panicked and was quiet. For a few seconds, my cat was jumping up and down in pain after being ran over, making painful noises. Then it stopped, and my cat just lie down there in blood.
My mom took out the clothes that i bought earlier from the plastic bag and put my cat's dead body inside it. We drove to my Grandma's house because after the divorce, my bro and i were temporarily living with our mom at my Grandma's house.
I was crying through out the time. It hurts inside. We buried my cat at the back of my Grandma's house. One of my cousins was there and she says that i was overreacting, it was just a cat. I wouldn't expect her to understand because she's not as passionate about cats as i was.
Sometimes, memory like this made me don't want to adopt cats because i can get too attached to them. And if they died or go missing, it'll make me depressed. After that incident, i never adopt any cats but instead, stray cats will come to my house and it would look like as if i'm adopting them . So far, i didn't have to witness any cat deaths, only missing cats that never return, which is less hurtful because i will always think that they are not dead, just went some where or some asshole kidnapped them.
I mean, even if i want to adopt a cat one day, i will adopt a cat that likes to sit at home 24/7... not the kind that needs to go outdoors. I can get too worried if my cat decides to stray too far from the house, or when it's outside of the house, it'll be exposed to more danger.
Only the memory of my dad cat can still bring tears to my eyes, compare to memory of ex bfs...
I had her when i was around 10 or 11 years old. I remembered the date because it happened on my dad's birthday and 2 days before my birthday. It happened on 18th January.
That year, my parents decide to have a birthday party for me and my bro, whose birthday is also in January.
That time, my parents were divorced but my cat was living with my dad and occasionally i and my bro will stay with my dad, i think it's during the weekends. That afternoon, my mom and i just got back from the clothes shop where i bought the clothes that i was suppose to wear for my birthday party.
After that, we decide to stop by my dad's house to get some things and to look at the cat. She will come running to me whenever she sees me or when i call her, that's why i love her. I always have the habit of looking under the car to make sure there were no cats under it once the engine starts because i've seen a lot of cats that are being ran over just because they slept near the car tire and it happened a few times to my Grandma's cats since she has many cats.
That day, my mom didn't even park her car inside the house, she parked outside of the gate. My mom and i were in the car when i looked at my cat, who was at the balcony of the house. Then i looked away, my mom started the car. The moment we moved, we heard some kind of crunching sound, as if the tire ran over something. I immediately felt fear and i looked at the side view mirror and that's when i saw my cat, jumping up and down like crazy.
I have tears in my eyes just remembering it now. Every time i recall the accident, it just made me really sad and depressed.
It was the most awful thing i have seen. My cat was in a lot of pain, there was blood every where. I was crying and screaming. My mom panicked and was quiet. For a few seconds, my cat was jumping up and down in pain after being ran over, making painful noises. Then it stopped, and my cat just lie down there in blood.
My mom took out the clothes that i bought earlier from the plastic bag and put my cat's dead body inside it. We drove to my Grandma's house because after the divorce, my bro and i were temporarily living with our mom at my Grandma's house.
I was crying through out the time. It hurts inside. We buried my cat at the back of my Grandma's house. One of my cousins was there and she says that i was overreacting, it was just a cat. I wouldn't expect her to understand because she's not as passionate about cats as i was.
Sometimes, memory like this made me don't want to adopt cats because i can get too attached to them. And if they died or go missing, it'll make me depressed. After that incident, i never adopt any cats but instead, stray cats will come to my house and it would look like as if i'm adopting them . So far, i didn't have to witness any cat deaths, only missing cats that never return, which is less hurtful because i will always think that they are not dead, just went some where or some asshole kidnapped them.
I mean, even if i want to adopt a cat one day, i will adopt a cat that likes to sit at home 24/7... not the kind that needs to go outdoors. I can get too worried if my cat decides to stray too far from the house, or when it's outside of the house, it'll be exposed to more danger.
Only the memory of my dad cat can still bring tears to my eyes, compare to memory of ex bfs...
Friday, March 26, 2010
Cairo, Egypt – D 4 : Drama, People & Cairo Version of Petaling Street
Today began with trip to the airport because we’ll be going to Cairo, Egypt. At the airport, we went through the scanning thing for our luggage and body, which is suppose to be pretty normal. It’s normal until that stupid jackass kept on telling me “Push, Push, Push”. The jackass was referring to my luggage and hand carry items that needed to be scanned. There were 3 of them all together. I mean, i have 2 heavy stuff, one is my luggage and the other my laptop bag, can’t he be PATIENT? I was very irritated with the way he said push push push. I felt like pushing his stupid head through the scanner. The way he said it was RUDE. And he was such a “gentleman”, can’t even be bothered to help me push my things a little bit so that it’ll enter the scanner. He was just standing nearby my stuff and instructing me to push! In my head, i was using the F word at him.
Not being familiar with the scanning system here, i didn’t know women have a different section and it was just nearby. Hell, i didn’t see any woman standing there, how am i supposed to know? There’s no big clear signs. The asshole idiot asked me to go to the other side. And inside there was a woman officer waiting. When i went through it, there was a beeping sound. I thought i had to go back and do it again but instead that stupid bitch told me not to. I called her a bitch because she talked to me in Arabic and wasn’t even looking at me and the way she was talking to me was rude and ROUGH. How rude is that? What, she thinks i understand Arabic? I get pissed off easily when people are rude to me, especially MEN, like that rude asshole ‘push’ idiot.
We only boarded the plane around 10 30am. It was just 1 and a half hour journey to Cairo by Egypt Air. I think MAS is still my favourite plane for many reasons but i’m too lazy to list all of them down here. Once we reached Cairo and get our luggage, we were greeted by our tour guide. He’s young, late 20’s or early 30’s and tall. Do i think he’s cute? Hehehehe. Michael Ballack still my number one! Again, this tour guide is a heavy smoker like our tour guide in Jordan. Argh, just hate the smell of cigarettes soooo much. The worst thing is that people in Jordan and Egypt can smoke in air conditioned places provided there’s NO SMOKING sign.
VIEW FROM THE PLANE.... ABOVE, NOT SURE IF IT'S THE NILE RIVER. BELOW, CAIRO CITY....
I looove the weather in Egypt. It’s cold. It’s still winter time here but gonna enter spring on 21st March. For today’s trip, it’ll just be a tour around Cairo and night time dinner at the cruise.
During the city tour in the car, we observed many things and the friendly tour guide told us many things. He said that the drivers in Cairo never keep to their lane. Indeed, that’s true. The drivers keep on cutting lanes without giving signal. Not only that, they honk every 15 seconds. I swear! My dad told me the environment in Cairo is exactly like in Jakarta (since he went there before). It’s too packed, the road is jammed and people just love to honked at each other. According to the tour guide, majority of the people live in apartments. You can see apartments EVERY WHERE. He said Cairo has 20 mil plus people living.
AND THE CITY TOUR BEGINS...
BEHIND ME, THAT TALL BUILDING SUPPOSE TO BE REVOLVING. IF I REMEMBERED CORRECTLY, THE TOUR GUIDE SAYS YOU CAN HAVE YOUR DINNER THERE WHILE THE THINK REVOLVES...
IN FRONT OF THE NILE RIVER...
ABANDONED MOSQUE...Cairo is just so damn crowded with people walking and people on the road. By the way, i think i saw some Malaysian guys a.k.a the religious looking ones. The Al Azhar University is located here. Either they are Malaysians or they are Indonesians. Nah, they are definitely Malaysians, they look like those guys who are under the JPA scholarship :-D...
Then we passed a bazaar. The tour guide said that if we were to go to the bazaar, we must really negotiate the prices because prices can drop as much as 40% if we really bargain. But he also said that the bazaar doesn’t really have good quality stuff and described it as “Chinese”. I asked why. He said because the products nowadays are mostly from China.
Once the tour is over, we went back to the hotel for rest because later tonight we have a dinner cruise.
IM VERY PARTICULAR ABOUT TOILETS... I LOVE THIS HOTEL SO MUCH COMPARE TO THE MARRIOT THAT I STAYED IN JORDAN BECAUSE THIS HOTEL HAVE A HOSE BY THE SIDE...
During dinner cruise, we were entertained by performance of belly dancing and some guy who can twist and spin forever like non stop. I actually enjoyed the belly dancing, it wasn’t as erotic as what i thought, i guess belly dancing has its stages of erotic-ness and the one that i saw was probably like stage 5 out of 10. The singer Shakira is famous for belly dancing too and she’s more erotic although she doesn’t belly dance through out her music video so not fair to compare the belly dancer that i saw performing and Shakira. The belly dancing performance that i saw was very entertaining, love the look on her face, she was smiling the entire time! Not only that, her body movements were very in tune with the Arabic song and the song was very nice and sounded sexy :-D. It was sung LIVE too.
AT THE SHIP FOR THE DINNER CRUISE.. THE SHIP CRUISED ALONG THE NILE RIVER...
ONE OF THE PERFORMANCES.. THE MAN WHO CAN SPIN NON STOP FOR MORE THAN 10 MINS..
THE BELLY DANCING PERFORMANCE...Videos of the belly dancing...
Law, Law, Law...
Even my table can't handle the law books... look at the table... it isn't straight anymore... all the law books are on top of the shelf while the law files are on the left. My dad says that it's my so called "nonsense dolls and decorations that made the table carry a lot of weight. Ha, i can combine 5 of my thickest law books and they will still be heavier than all my dolls put together... minus the fat printer...
On My Mind Today...
1. I love heavy rain... less people taking the bus because they never bring an umbrella with them. This is a tropical country, umbrella is a necessity especially if you are taking public transport.
2. If you are not wrong, you don't have to hide anything. So once you start hiding something which was once open, means : YOU ARE GUILTY AS CHARGE!
3. Pervert and horny men are every where.
4. Bad girls know more than good girls. Men only reveal their true identities to bad girls. So easy to find a man's weak spot. Men are hypocrites. Most anyway.
5. Me stubborn? Never. Just firm and strict and i stand by my principles.
6. i was on the way to get the bus when this guy promoting Celcom stopped me and told me the sim card is free (he was giving away celcom sim cards). But he told me i have to fill up a form and give my IC. He asked me whether i have blacklisted number. The moment he asked for my IC because he wants to photocopy it, i felt skeptical. So i told him i didn't bring my IC. The look on his face shows he didn't believe me. Then i remembered instances where people claimed that they are being registered to unknown numbers and being left with unpaid bills by the "illegal user". This is what happens when people have ur IC.
7. I hate it when people take advantage of me. I'm surprised with my level of patience and tolerance. When i'm angry, i usually keep quiet because i will explode once i open my mouth. So better keep my mouth shut. And of course i have my darling blog to vent out my anger....
8. I know things which you don't know. It explains my current attitude.
9. This is a modern world where women aren't as stupid as they used to be. Why do men (strangers) bother to offer rides just because they see a woman waiting alone? Only stupid women will get on such ride.
THIS KITTY HAS SOME ISSUES LIKE ME....
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Madaba, Mount Nebo and Dead Sea, Jordan – Day 3 : Dry Skin, Castle, Church, Super Duper Windy & Dead Sea
I woke up this morning realizing how DRY my skin was due to the low humidity weather. It’s a good thing because one of the big stupid pimple on my cheek stop growing and start becoming dry without the need of me to apply OXY cream. 
THE CHURCH....
Besides the church, I was so excited with the Mosaic art. It was sooo artistic and beautiful BUT so EXPANSIVE. I went to the factory where they made mosaic arts and they showed how they do it. They have all kinds of pictures in various sizes from small to large but unfortunately, there’s no CAT pictures L. The owner said he could specially make one for me, a picture of a cat and then deliver it all the way to Malaysia (they provided such services for order made from overseas). In my head i was already thinking it’ll be damn expansive because i saw a mosaic picture at a hotel and it cost 130 dinars, what more if it’s specially made for you and delivered to your very own country? And i was very right, he said total will cost me 500 bloody hell dinars. That’s equivalent to RM 1000 +++. My dad would definitely kill me. Instead I bought a medium mosaic picture of a pretty tree which cost 75 dinars and a lecture from my dad on how expansive it was. God, those really large mosaic pictures were very beautiful and will look so beautiful hanging on a house wall and I just stare at it the whole day. I may not be an art expert but i appreciate beautiful arts.
HOW THE WOMAN MAKES THE MOSAIC ART....
THE DEAD SEA... WITH THE NOT SO DEAD PEOPLE...
BUBBLING EVIL WATER.... ;-P
THE MOUNTAINS AT THE BACKGROUND IS THE "BELOVED" ISRAEL..
For today’s trip, we were suppose to go to Wadi Rum and the Dead Sea but we altered our plans a little because the tour guide said it’s better for us to go to other places instead of Wadi Rum because if we were to go to Wadi Rum, we’ll spend more time in the car and it’s just looking at deserts. According to my trustworthy brochure, Wadi Rum is the “largest and most magnificent of Jordan’s desert landscape”. Magnificent as it may be, i’ve seen enough sandy landscape so I won’t be awe by deserts. Luckily my dad chose to skipped the Wadi Rum. And actually, it’s a very very good thing too because today’s weather is just sooooooooooooooo windy and super strong wind.
So our first trip was to an old castle. More like a fortress. That’s the first place we experienced the super strong wind. From the pictures, you can see how strong the wind is. Next trip was to Madaba and I was excited because of what the tour guide said we’ll find in Madaba. According to the brochure : it’s known as the CITY OF MOSAICS and one of the chief attraction is the contemporary Greek Orthodox Church of St George – is a wonderfully vivid, 6th century Byzantine mosaic map showing Jerusalem and other holy sites.
AT THE CASTLE..
Once in Madaba, we went to the church. It was beautiful, with beautiful colourful holy pictures.
THE CHURCH....
Besides the church, I was so excited with the Mosaic art. It was sooo artistic and beautiful BUT so EXPANSIVE. I went to the factory where they made mosaic arts and they showed how they do it. They have all kinds of pictures in various sizes from small to large but unfortunately, there’s no CAT pictures L. The owner said he could specially make one for me, a picture of a cat and then deliver it all the way to Malaysia (they provided such services for order made from overseas). In my head i was already thinking it’ll be damn expansive because i saw a mosaic picture at a hotel and it cost 130 dinars, what more if it’s specially made for you and delivered to your very own country? And i was very right, he said total will cost me 500 bloody hell dinars. That’s equivalent to RM 1000 +++. My dad would definitely kill me. Instead I bought a medium mosaic picture of a pretty tree which cost 75 dinars and a lecture from my dad on how expansive it was. God, those really large mosaic pictures were very beautiful and will look so beautiful hanging on a house wall and I just stare at it the whole day. I may not be an art expert but i appreciate beautiful arts.
HOW THE WOMAN MAKES THE MOSAIC ART....
THIS IS WHAT I BOUGHT. MEDIUM (MORE LIKE SMALL) SIZE. COST 75 DINARS!
OUTSIDE THE SHOP.... WITH PRETTY FLOWERS...
After that, we went to Mount Nebo, another super strong windy place. Brochure : Mt Nebo is believed to be the place where Moses was buried and most revered holy site in Jordan. Once we are done sightseeing at Mt Nebo, our final destination for the day is the Dead Sea and we will spend a day there. The Dead Sea is around 390 m BELOW SEA LEVEL!
THIS ONE IS AT MOUNT NEBO
NEXT STOP... DEAD SEA!
VIEW OF THE DEAD SEA... EVEN THE TREES LOOK DEAD....
THE DEAD SEA... WITH THE NOT SO DEAD PEOPLE...
BUBBLING EVIL WATER.... ;-P
THE MOUNTAINS AT THE BACKGROUND IS THE "BELOVED" ISRAEL..
Do you know why it’s called the Dead Sea? It’s because there is no living organisms in the sea due to the high level of salt/mineral in the sea. Besides that, things can’t sink into the sea, they will just float. So i’m right to say that you can’t drown in the Dead Sea right? I would love to experience floating in the sea since i’m not capable of doing so but unfortunately, i’m having my period so i can only see my bro and dead floating around in the dead sea. Unfortunately, we were not that long in the dead sea because of the strong currents, due to the strong wind. My dad said that the sea water is sooooooo freaking salty that it made him feel like vomiting.
Dead Sea is also famously known for it’s mud. I saw some people putting the mud on their body. I’m not a beach person so i didn’t like the feel of the water when i touched it because after that, it had a sticky feeling to it. Not to mention that my hair became very dry and felt rough and sticky due to the salty air. I did collect some stones though J. The “Dead” stones J. Before leaving the beach, i saw a lady bug on my sandal. It suppose to bring good luck right? Let’s see how lucky i am tomorrow or will it be vice versa?
We stayed at the Marriott hotel. It’s a beautiful hotel. Funny thing is, the 2 previous days we also stayed at different Marriott hotels and personally i think this 3rd Marriott hotel is the best one. Just because the name is Marriott, doesn’t mean it’s suppose to be nice or 4 or 5 star because the Marriott hotel at Petra doesn’t feel or look like a 5 star hotel but this one at the Dead Sea is like one. I guess that they really have to show a 5 star treatment kind of hotel since the Dead Sea will attract a lot of tourists.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Mixing sexual elements with religion...
http://new.music.yahoo.com/blogs/hiphopmediatraining/253602/akon-sexy-chick-video-considered-blasphemous-to-buddhists-sri-lankan-visa-denied/
Before you read this blog entry, please read the article and watch the video above. To sum it up, the issue was that in Akon's video, there was a Buddha statue and bikini girls were dancing seductively in that video. So people, especially the Buddhist find this insulting. I may not be a Buddhist but i find it insulting to if the Buddha Statue was to be replaced with a MOSQUE.
Because i really don't like Akon, and it made me hate him even more, i join his hate fan page. And so i read some of the comments people posted there, some defending him stating :
1. The video only show glimpses of the Buddha statue.
2. People won't even notice the Buddha statue but for Facebook creating a page criticising Akon for making such video clip.
This is what i think :
1. When i first saw the video clip posted on the article which I've given you the link above, I immediately notice the Buddha statue, not noticing that the author actually told you the timing where the Buddha statue will appear. Perhaps those who didn't notice the statue are too busy looking at the bikini girls. Or they are not aware what is a Buddha statue. I'm a Malaysian and Malaysia is a multiracial country so i'm pretty much aware of all the religion that most people are practicing here like Islam, Christian, Hindu and Buddhism.
2. Be AWARE though, there are so many edited video clip of this video. When i went to You Tube, i noticed that it looked different from the one that i saw, they cut out the Buddha part.
3. So they are Americans, so they wouldn't know what is a Buddha statue? They are so many people in that video clip, don't tell me they aren't aware of it? Are their general knowledge that low? So you mean to tell me majority of the American teens wouldn't know what is Buddhism? Or perhaps even the adults won't know?
4. The most unacceptable thing that Akon said, according to the article above is that he didn't realized there was a Buddha statue at all. Why am i not surprise? He's probably too busy drooling after the bikini girls to notice the Buddha statue. If i was there, i would have noticed it, especially if i have to go back to the same place for few days (shooting a video clip will take a few days right?). Say even if Akon really doesn't know what is a Buddha statue, he has the nerve to say he can't understand why people are so offended? Excuse me, if people told you something is religious, then you realized you made a video clip filled with bikini and scantily dressed girls doing sexual acts involving a religious element as a background of your video clip, won't you immediately realized you are at wrong? Bikini girls dancing in front of a church, is that okay?
5. So it seems the sri lankans are protesting violently. I don't know how violent they are being but if no one died, that should be good news. But violence is never the answer, perhaps one should use firmness and strictness. Voice out your anger, but not hurt anyone. Demonstrate peacefully, don't throw things at people. Imagine this, you are a mother, and you find out someone is trying to hurt or kill your child, i'm sure you won't be calm handling the matter even if religion told you not to use violence or whatsoever.
6. So what if the video clip only show 3 secs of the Buddha. You think you can get away with it? People should be DISCIPLINED when they do something wrong and hurtful. Taking things too lightly can prove to be a problem eventually. If you have an affair, and you were never caught, you'll keep on doing it until you were caught and punished. That's why Tiger Woods have so many mistresses, because he was never caught!
7. Sometimes i look at some of the American models, wearing bikini and then wearing a 'cross' around their neck. People just keep quiet about it, find it's a normal thing. Or some of the Americans who wear bikini in the pattern of their country's flag. where is the respect? Can't you leave your religion alone if you are going to do something that might degrade your religion. Then you have porn of nun having sex. This happens when you don't control people.
8. Fact : You know the movie 2012? In that movie they showed everything is destroyed but they never show a mosque being destroyed. You know why? Because according to the directors, they are afraid a fatwa may be given against them for doing something controversial like destroying a mosque. Yes, the Muslims are a bit sensitive or whatever but the Muslim means business and they show it. People around the world are aware that Muslims never like their religion being insulted and there's a possibility some very jihad Muslim will kill anyone who insulted Islam. I've seen many videos insulting Islam, which is so unacceptable that i believed the director of the video deserved to be killed and he was killed.
9. I never find it amusing to make fun of your own religion or other people's religion. I think it's a disgraceful act, no matter if it's a small joke. That's the problem with human beings, they think they can make fun of everything.
P/s : The beat of the song is nice. But the lyrics are stupid. You talk about a woman's ass yet your are trying to say how u don't want to make yourself sound disrespectful to her. Try talking about her personality and not her physical.
Before you read this blog entry, please read the article and watch the video above. To sum it up, the issue was that in Akon's video, there was a Buddha statue and bikini girls were dancing seductively in that video. So people, especially the Buddhist find this insulting. I may not be a Buddhist but i find it insulting to if the Buddha Statue was to be replaced with a MOSQUE.
Because i really don't like Akon, and it made me hate him even more, i join his hate fan page. And so i read some of the comments people posted there, some defending him stating :
1. The video only show glimpses of the Buddha statue.
2. People won't even notice the Buddha statue but for Facebook creating a page criticising Akon for making such video clip.
This is what i think :
1. When i first saw the video clip posted on the article which I've given you the link above, I immediately notice the Buddha statue, not noticing that the author actually told you the timing where the Buddha statue will appear. Perhaps those who didn't notice the statue are too busy looking at the bikini girls. Or they are not aware what is a Buddha statue. I'm a Malaysian and Malaysia is a multiracial country so i'm pretty much aware of all the religion that most people are practicing here like Islam, Christian, Hindu and Buddhism.
2. Be AWARE though, there are so many edited video clip of this video. When i went to You Tube, i noticed that it looked different from the one that i saw, they cut out the Buddha part.
3. So they are Americans, so they wouldn't know what is a Buddha statue? They are so many people in that video clip, don't tell me they aren't aware of it? Are their general knowledge that low? So you mean to tell me majority of the American teens wouldn't know what is Buddhism? Or perhaps even the adults won't know?
4. The most unacceptable thing that Akon said, according to the article above is that he didn't realized there was a Buddha statue at all. Why am i not surprise? He's probably too busy drooling after the bikini girls to notice the Buddha statue. If i was there, i would have noticed it, especially if i have to go back to the same place for few days (shooting a video clip will take a few days right?). Say even if Akon really doesn't know what is a Buddha statue, he has the nerve to say he can't understand why people are so offended? Excuse me, if people told you something is religious, then you realized you made a video clip filled with bikini and scantily dressed girls doing sexual acts involving a religious element as a background of your video clip, won't you immediately realized you are at wrong? Bikini girls dancing in front of a church, is that okay?
5. So it seems the sri lankans are protesting violently. I don't know how violent they are being but if no one died, that should be good news. But violence is never the answer, perhaps one should use firmness and strictness. Voice out your anger, but not hurt anyone. Demonstrate peacefully, don't throw things at people. Imagine this, you are a mother, and you find out someone is trying to hurt or kill your child, i'm sure you won't be calm handling the matter even if religion told you not to use violence or whatsoever.
6. So what if the video clip only show 3 secs of the Buddha. You think you can get away with it? People should be DISCIPLINED when they do something wrong and hurtful. Taking things too lightly can prove to be a problem eventually. If you have an affair, and you were never caught, you'll keep on doing it until you were caught and punished. That's why Tiger Woods have so many mistresses, because he was never caught!
7. Sometimes i look at some of the American models, wearing bikini and then wearing a 'cross' around their neck. People just keep quiet about it, find it's a normal thing. Or some of the Americans who wear bikini in the pattern of their country's flag. where is the respect? Can't you leave your religion alone if you are going to do something that might degrade your religion. Then you have porn of nun having sex. This happens when you don't control people.
8. Fact : You know the movie 2012? In that movie they showed everything is destroyed but they never show a mosque being destroyed. You know why? Because according to the directors, they are afraid a fatwa may be given against them for doing something controversial like destroying a mosque. Yes, the Muslims are a bit sensitive or whatever but the Muslim means business and they show it. People around the world are aware that Muslims never like their religion being insulted and there's a possibility some very jihad Muslim will kill anyone who insulted Islam. I've seen many videos insulting Islam, which is so unacceptable that i believed the director of the video deserved to be killed and he was killed.
9. I never find it amusing to make fun of your own religion or other people's religion. I think it's a disgraceful act, no matter if it's a small joke. That's the problem with human beings, they think they can make fun of everything.
P/s : The beat of the song is nice. But the lyrics are stupid. You talk about a woman's ass yet your are trying to say how u don't want to make yourself sound disrespectful to her. Try talking about her personality and not her physical.
Petra, Jordan – Day 2 : Rockies, Cats and My Poor Feet
Note to self, for breakfast, i found a new love for Arabic bread! Damn delicious! The best bread i have ever eaten!
From Amman, we travelled to Petra by car which took us like 3 to 4 hours to reach Petra. What is Petra? Let me copy a brief description about Petra from a brochure that I received :
Petra, chosen as one of the 7 world wonders (really?? I didn’t know that), it is without a doubt Jordan’s most valuable treasure and greatest tourist attraction. It’s a vast, unique city, carved into the cheer rock face by Nabataeans, an industrious Arab people who settled here more than 2000 years ago, turning it into an important junction for the silk, spice and other trade routes that linked China, India and southern Arabia with Egypt, Syria, Greece and Rome. By 16th century Petra was completely lost to the West, and so it remained for almost 300 years. In 1812, a Swiss traveller named Johann Ludwig Burckhardt persuaded his guide to take him to the site of the rumoured lost city. Secretly making notes and sketches, he wrote “ It seems very probable that the ruins at Wadi Musa are those of ancient Petra”. ....
My version of Petra? It’s some kind of rocky brown place that requires you to walk and walk and walk and walk. No doubt, it’s a beautiful place, i think people used to live in these rocky things because some look like caves and if you go inside, it’s very very cooling, screw air con. Even my stupid air con at my Casa Indah condo isn’t as cooling as inside the air conless cave. The entrance fee into Petra is 33 dinars PER PERSON, convert it to RM, and it’ll be RM 155. What the &5$#??!! ( 1 Jordanian dinars = RM 4.71). My mom told me not to buy anything at Petra and Dubai because the things are freaking damn expansive. Thus, i have to resist the shopping urge and wait til my trip to Egypt in 2 more days.
It looks like cave...
And that bloody 33 dinars entrance fee doesn’t include a tour guide, hence we have to walk by ourselves. You want a tour guide, you have to pay EXTRA which could extend to 50 dinars. It’s quite a long walk along Petra so they offer donkey/horse rides which you have to pay, 15 dinars. We choose not to get the donkey ride because firstly, it’s expansive and secondly I don’t want to end up like the guy who played Superman in the earlier Superman movies who ended up paralysed from head to toe when he fell from the horse, in case the horse decide to go berserk. This is another reason why I don’t plan to ride a camel either. Besides, i’m an animal lover, don’t want the poor thing to carry my fat ass, a heavy burden for it.
There were a lot of people at Petra, mostly in big tour groups. As we started out journey, i saw a horny donkey making horny noises (he was damn far away but his horny cry is loud). Then another horny donkey started making horny noises in REPLY. Why did i think the donkeys were horny? After making the noise, the donkey started to turn side by side on the ground (i saw this from far). It’s pretty much like what horny cats will do. Anyway, enough with the horny donkeys, this is about Petra.
ONE OF THE DONKEYS BUT NOT THE HORNY ONE...
Since my dad knew how much I LOOOOOOOVE “walking”, him, being sarcastic told me to IMAGINE that I was walking at the One Utama shopping mall, from the old wing to the new wing and there are many shops by the side.
I was wearing flat covered shoes but yet my feet were still tired, painful and blisters started to form. I was also having breathing difficulties because i was still having flu so my nose was still watery and blocked. But they were not blocked enough since i could still smell HORSE SHITS along the way. The stuff is green in colour. Smells like zebra or donkey shit too since it’s the same smell when i was at Mexico when i was younger because they had Zebras along the street. Or was it donkeys? I swore it was Zebra. But camel’s shits are like tiny small balls. I think it was camel shit since the camel was there before it went away.
INTO PETRA...
THIS IS WHERE I STOPPED...
My feet were killing me so i decided to stop at the 3rd pit stop instead of continuing up to the monastery. The first walk was about 800 m. Then the 2nd walk was 1.3 km to this beautiful thing (i really don’t know what’s the correct term to described it so i just show you a picture of it). After that, the walk to the monastery was a little bit further and there are 800 STEPS!! I told my father i’m not gonna climb those steps because i didn’t even climbed the steps at BATU CAVES which is like what, 1000 steps?? My brother corrected me and said it’s just like 500 something. Whatever, it’s still a lot of steps for my fat ass to climb up. So my dad and bro continued they journey to the monastery while i wait for them at this one eating and drinking place. Bought a coke for 1 dinar. Bloody hell expansive since it’s just a small can.
I saw some cats around the place, tried to call them but they ignored me since i have no food. Evil cats! While waiting for my dad and bro to return, an elderly couple sat next to me. I just smiled at them. Later, a local tour guide joined us at the table. He started to talk to me, the basic local-foreign people conversations. His English is good. So far, all the Jordianian people that i come across have good English. Our private tour guide has excellent English. He was telling me that he was doing Nursing course at Germany (ooooHHH my God, that’s where my darling Michael Ballack is from!!! Sorry for my “gedikness” ;-p) and stayed at Germany for 17 years before he decided to return back to Jordan. I asked him why he didn’t continue doing his nursing course here. He said nursing here doesn’t give you good pay, only 500 dinars per month while being a tour guide, you could easily earn 170 dinars per day or was it per week?, sometimes per month you can get 7000 dinars! He also told me that he personally think that the Petra’s entrance fee is too damn high and the most expansive tourism entrance fee he had come across. Per day, Petra can get as much as 5000 tourists!!! Now that i remembered, the entrance fee for Petra will be 50 dinars starting 1st November 2010!! And the tour guide told me the Petra’s entrance fee is always increasing. Then the elderly couple started talking to him about some stuff and i found out the couple is from Belgium and the tour guide can speak several languages. Later the couple left and the tour guide had to continue with his tour group.
Then a young boy who was working at the cafe started to talk to me. He was wearing thick eyeliner, thicker than mine even! He started to talk to me because i was meow meowing the blooding damn arrogant cats. He asked me whether i like cats and i told him yes. It was his cat, altogether he has 7 cats. Oh My God, i just love those fat orange cats. My conversation with the boy was mainly he trying to promote Petra. He told me instead of waiting here, i should go up to the monetary like my dad and bro. I told him i was too damn tired and that it was far. He told me i should ride on the donkey to go there. I told him donkeys are expansive. He said he can persuade his brother to give 7 dinars instead of 15. Donkey or no donkey, i will not go up there because i’m tired and my dad told me to stay put. So i just declined him. I don’t know how over conversations went back to talking about cats because he told me he has a BLACK cat and it was pretty, even prettier if he put khol (the eyeliner) around it’s eyes. Seriously, that’s what i heard he told me. And how in the hell do u put eyeliner around the cat’s eyes especially since it’s already BLACK??! I must have misheard him but i’m sure he mentioned KHOL!
PICTURE OF THE MONASTRY. TOOK THE PIC FROM MY DAD'S CAMERA SINCE I WAS TOO FAT AND LAZY TO WALK ALL THE WAY UP THERE.
After 1 hour plus, i saw my dad and bro returning so i said goodbye to the boy. Me, being a world class cat harasser, tried to call to another orange cat. Instead of the cat answering me, one of the guys working there told me the cat’s name is SHAKIRA. I was dumbfounded for a moment. A cat named Shakira? I’m pretty sure he named it after the Latina singer Shakira.
THERE WERE A LOT OF PRETTY COLOURFUL FLOWERS IN AMMAN.
My dad, bro and i started to walk back to the entrance of Petra from where we initially came from. We were all tired, although I didn’t go up all the way to the monastery :-D... We waited for our tour guide to pick us up and send us to our hotel. Got to stop here for now because i have to get ready for dinner!
From Amman, we travelled to Petra by car which took us like 3 to 4 hours to reach Petra. What is Petra? Let me copy a brief description about Petra from a brochure that I received :
Petra, chosen as one of the 7 world wonders (really?? I didn’t know that), it is without a doubt Jordan’s most valuable treasure and greatest tourist attraction. It’s a vast, unique city, carved into the cheer rock face by Nabataeans, an industrious Arab people who settled here more than 2000 years ago, turning it into an important junction for the silk, spice and other trade routes that linked China, India and southern Arabia with Egypt, Syria, Greece and Rome. By 16th century Petra was completely lost to the West, and so it remained for almost 300 years. In 1812, a Swiss traveller named Johann Ludwig Burckhardt persuaded his guide to take him to the site of the rumoured lost city. Secretly making notes and sketches, he wrote “ It seems very probable that the ruins at Wadi Musa are those of ancient Petra”. ....
My version of Petra? It’s some kind of rocky brown place that requires you to walk and walk and walk and walk. No doubt, it’s a beautiful place, i think people used to live in these rocky things because some look like caves and if you go inside, it’s very very cooling, screw air con. Even my stupid air con at my Casa Indah condo isn’t as cooling as inside the air conless cave. The entrance fee into Petra is 33 dinars PER PERSON, convert it to RM, and it’ll be RM 155. What the &5$#??!! ( 1 Jordanian dinars = RM 4.71). My mom told me not to buy anything at Petra and Dubai because the things are freaking damn expansive. Thus, i have to resist the shopping urge and wait til my trip to Egypt in 2 more days.
It looks like cave...
And that bloody 33 dinars entrance fee doesn’t include a tour guide, hence we have to walk by ourselves. You want a tour guide, you have to pay EXTRA which could extend to 50 dinars. It’s quite a long walk along Petra so they offer donkey/horse rides which you have to pay, 15 dinars. We choose not to get the donkey ride because firstly, it’s expansive and secondly I don’t want to end up like the guy who played Superman in the earlier Superman movies who ended up paralysed from head to toe when he fell from the horse, in case the horse decide to go berserk. This is another reason why I don’t plan to ride a camel either. Besides, i’m an animal lover, don’t want the poor thing to carry my fat ass, a heavy burden for it.
There were a lot of people at Petra, mostly in big tour groups. As we started out journey, i saw a horny donkey making horny noises (he was damn far away but his horny cry is loud). Then another horny donkey started making horny noises in REPLY. Why did i think the donkeys were horny? After making the noise, the donkey started to turn side by side on the ground (i saw this from far). It’s pretty much like what horny cats will do. Anyway, enough with the horny donkeys, this is about Petra.
ONE OF THE DONKEYS BUT NOT THE HORNY ONE...
Since my dad knew how much I LOOOOOOOVE “walking”, him, being sarcastic told me to IMAGINE that I was walking at the One Utama shopping mall, from the old wing to the new wing and there are many shops by the side.
I was wearing flat covered shoes but yet my feet were still tired, painful and blisters started to form. I was also having breathing difficulties because i was still having flu so my nose was still watery and blocked. But they were not blocked enough since i could still smell HORSE SHITS along the way. The stuff is green in colour. Smells like zebra or donkey shit too since it’s the same smell when i was at Mexico when i was younger because they had Zebras along the street. Or was it donkeys? I swore it was Zebra. But camel’s shits are like tiny small balls. I think it was camel shit since the camel was there before it went away.
INTO PETRA...
THIS IS WHERE I STOPPED...
My feet were killing me so i decided to stop at the 3rd pit stop instead of continuing up to the monastery. The first walk was about 800 m. Then the 2nd walk was 1.3 km to this beautiful thing (i really don’t know what’s the correct term to described it so i just show you a picture of it). After that, the walk to the monastery was a little bit further and there are 800 STEPS!! I told my father i’m not gonna climb those steps because i didn’t even climbed the steps at BATU CAVES which is like what, 1000 steps?? My brother corrected me and said it’s just like 500 something. Whatever, it’s still a lot of steps for my fat ass to climb up. So my dad and bro continued they journey to the monastery while i wait for them at this one eating and drinking place. Bought a coke for 1 dinar. Bloody hell expansive since it’s just a small can.
I saw some cats around the place, tried to call them but they ignored me since i have no food. Evil cats! While waiting for my dad and bro to return, an elderly couple sat next to me. I just smiled at them. Later, a local tour guide joined us at the table. He started to talk to me, the basic local-foreign people conversations. His English is good. So far, all the Jordianian people that i come across have good English. Our private tour guide has excellent English. He was telling me that he was doing Nursing course at Germany (ooooHHH my God, that’s where my darling Michael Ballack is from!!! Sorry for my “gedikness” ;-p) and stayed at Germany for 17 years before he decided to return back to Jordan. I asked him why he didn’t continue doing his nursing course here. He said nursing here doesn’t give you good pay, only 500 dinars per month while being a tour guide, you could easily earn 170 dinars per day or was it per week?, sometimes per month you can get 7000 dinars! He also told me that he personally think that the Petra’s entrance fee is too damn high and the most expansive tourism entrance fee he had come across. Per day, Petra can get as much as 5000 tourists!!! Now that i remembered, the entrance fee for Petra will be 50 dinars starting 1st November 2010!! And the tour guide told me the Petra’s entrance fee is always increasing. Then the elderly couple started talking to him about some stuff and i found out the couple is from Belgium and the tour guide can speak several languages. Later the couple left and the tour guide had to continue with his tour group.
Then a young boy who was working at the cafe started to talk to me. He was wearing thick eyeliner, thicker than mine even! He started to talk to me because i was meow meowing the blooding damn arrogant cats. He asked me whether i like cats and i told him yes. It was his cat, altogether he has 7 cats. Oh My God, i just love those fat orange cats. My conversation with the boy was mainly he trying to promote Petra. He told me instead of waiting here, i should go up to the monetary like my dad and bro. I told him i was too damn tired and that it was far. He told me i should ride on the donkey to go there. I told him donkeys are expansive. He said he can persuade his brother to give 7 dinars instead of 15. Donkey or no donkey, i will not go up there because i’m tired and my dad told me to stay put. So i just declined him. I don’t know how over conversations went back to talking about cats because he told me he has a BLACK cat and it was pretty, even prettier if he put khol (the eyeliner) around it’s eyes. Seriously, that’s what i heard he told me. And how in the hell do u put eyeliner around the cat’s eyes especially since it’s already BLACK??! I must have misheard him but i’m sure he mentioned KHOL!
PICTURE OF THE MONASTRY. TOOK THE PIC FROM MY DAD'S CAMERA SINCE I WAS TOO FAT AND LAZY TO WALK ALL THE WAY UP THERE.After 1 hour plus, i saw my dad and bro returning so i said goodbye to the boy. Me, being a world class cat harasser, tried to call to another orange cat. Instead of the cat answering me, one of the guys working there told me the cat’s name is SHAKIRA. I was dumbfounded for a moment. A cat named Shakira? I’m pretty sure he named it after the Latina singer Shakira.
THERE WERE A LOT OF PRETTY COLOURFUL FLOWERS IN AMMAN.My dad, bro and i started to walk back to the entrance of Petra from where we initially came from. We were all tired, although I didn’t go up all the way to the monastery :-D... We waited for our tour guide to pick us up and send us to our hotel. Got to stop here for now because i have to get ready for dinner!
Amman, Jordan – Day 1 : Bloody Tired & Exhausting
This is supposed to be a one week trip to Jordan and Egypt, private tour. On this trip are my dad, brother and me. Why my dad chose to go to these places, I don’t know, rather go to cool weather counties like ALASKA.. nice views and cute animals like polar bears and penguins :-D. Nevertheless, I’m happy to be on this trip. It’s the first time we are flying with Emirates. Nice, but I prefer MAS. So the plan was we leave KL for Dubai where we transit there and then proceed to Amman, Jordan. We’ll be in Jordan for 4 days and then later go to Egypt for 4 days then 1 day at Duubai. Then back to home sweet home Malaysia.
I didn’t sleep while in the flight from KL to Dubai, was busy watching the latest movies showing on the in flight movies. Manage to watched The Blind Side and District 9. I love Sandra Bullock in The Blind Side and District 9 is such a good alien movie, one of my favourites. Great leading actor and cute aliens :-p. I was damn tired and sleepy by the time we finally reached Amman.
I’m gonna make this blog short and brief because I’m freaking damn tired to blah blah blah a lot. It’s 9 30 pm here and I have to get up for breakfast at 6 30 am because we are leaving for Petra at 9am, it’s a 3 – 4 hours drive from where we are currently staying. So below are the events that took place :
1. Reached Amman, taken by tour guide to hotel where we checked in. Tight security at the entrance of hotel. The car is scanned with some sort of a detector (for BOMBS I assumed) and before entering the hotel, we have to put all our belongings through a scanner (you know, those luggage kind of scanner). If i remembered correctly, a bombing took place at Amman, can’t remember exactly which hotel. Had 4 hours of rest before we left the hotel and begin our first visit of Amman.
2. At 3 pm left the hotel. Went to visit Citidale of Amman. Beautiful place. There are some elements of Greek. There was a Roman Theatre, something like a Coliseum. By the way, love the weather here. It’s sunny but the air is cool, unlike the bloody damn hot weather of Malaysia. So I started to take some pictures. I really don’t like people taking my pictures, always end up looking like a fat cow. There will only be 1 or 2 pictures that will look decent. Plus it was damn windy so it made my hair look like shit in most of the pictures. I told my dad many times not to take my pictures from far distance but nooooooo he never listens. Hence, the fat cow pictures, displaying how fat my arms and tighs are. There are certain techniques in taking pictures to make yourself look good despite having buffalo arms and tighs. But noooooooo, my dad insist on making me look like a fat cow. I’m gonna posts pictures of myself which I THINK I LOOK GOOD ONLY.
The view from Citidel of Amman.. Located at the hill so it's very windy....
3. After the sightseeing, we went to visit my mother. She’s staying at Zarqa with her family. Through out the visits, i find out that the people here are quite friendly. The children are soooooo cute... I like the houses here, made out of limestone. It look so square, no roofs. The only problem is that the houses look kindda dull because all of them have the same colour, brown sandy colour.
4. After visiting my mother, we went back to our hotel. Ate dinner buffet, great food. Tried eating olive fruit, YUCK. Disgusting taste. I don’t know how my bro and father can stand eating it. But the coconut pudding was sooooo damn nice. Wanted to eat more but I was too full since I ate some cakes at my mom’s house which she baked since we are visiting her. Her chocolate cake is sooo nice.
5. And the lifestyle in Amman? The men and women walk far from each other, unless they are married or family relatives, then they will walk together. I asked my mother this and she said it was the culture. Unlike in Malaysia, you can see people dating, hold hands, etc... My mom said that’s why most of them end up with family arranged marriage. Date only after you are married. Now that’s a real Islamic way of life.
Oh yeah, and on the very first day of my trip, i caught sore throat and running nose. My running nose was soo bad that it turned red, making me look like Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder”...
I didn’t sleep while in the flight from KL to Dubai, was busy watching the latest movies showing on the in flight movies. Manage to watched The Blind Side and District 9. I love Sandra Bullock in The Blind Side and District 9 is such a good alien movie, one of my favourites. Great leading actor and cute aliens :-p. I was damn tired and sleepy by the time we finally reached Amman.
I’m gonna make this blog short and brief because I’m freaking damn tired to blah blah blah a lot. It’s 9 30 pm here and I have to get up for breakfast at 6 30 am because we are leaving for Petra at 9am, it’s a 3 – 4 hours drive from where we are currently staying. So below are the events that took place :
1. Reached Amman, taken by tour guide to hotel where we checked in. Tight security at the entrance of hotel. The car is scanned with some sort of a detector (for BOMBS I assumed) and before entering the hotel, we have to put all our belongings through a scanner (you know, those luggage kind of scanner). If i remembered correctly, a bombing took place at Amman, can’t remember exactly which hotel. Had 4 hours of rest before we left the hotel and begin our first visit of Amman.
2. At 3 pm left the hotel. Went to visit Citidale of Amman. Beautiful place. There are some elements of Greek. There was a Roman Theatre, something like a Coliseum. By the way, love the weather here. It’s sunny but the air is cool, unlike the bloody damn hot weather of Malaysia. So I started to take some pictures. I really don’t like people taking my pictures, always end up looking like a fat cow. There will only be 1 or 2 pictures that will look decent. Plus it was damn windy so it made my hair look like shit in most of the pictures. I told my dad many times not to take my pictures from far distance but nooooooo he never listens. Hence, the fat cow pictures, displaying how fat my arms and tighs are. There are certain techniques in taking pictures to make yourself look good despite having buffalo arms and tighs. But noooooooo, my dad insist on making me look like a fat cow. I’m gonna posts pictures of myself which I THINK I LOOK GOOD ONLY.
The view from Citidel of Amman.. Located at the hill so it's very windy....
3. After the sightseeing, we went to visit my mother. She’s staying at Zarqa with her family. Through out the visits, i find out that the people here are quite friendly. The children are soooooo cute... I like the houses here, made out of limestone. It look so square, no roofs. The only problem is that the houses look kindda dull because all of them have the same colour, brown sandy colour.
4. After visiting my mother, we went back to our hotel. Ate dinner buffet, great food. Tried eating olive fruit, YUCK. Disgusting taste. I don’t know how my bro and father can stand eating it. But the coconut pudding was sooooo damn nice. Wanted to eat more but I was too full since I ate some cakes at my mom’s house which she baked since we are visiting her. Her chocolate cake is sooo nice.
5. And the lifestyle in Amman? The men and women walk far from each other, unless they are married or family relatives, then they will walk together. I asked my mother this and she said it was the culture. Unlike in Malaysia, you can see people dating, hold hands, etc... My mom said that’s why most of them end up with family arranged marriage. Date only after you are married. Now that’s a real Islamic way of life.
Oh yeah, and on the very first day of my trip, i caught sore throat and running nose. My running nose was soo bad that it turned red, making me look like Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder”...
Monday, March 22, 2010
Animal Abuse...
I hate humans sometimes, especially when I see the way they abuse, torture and deliberately kill animals for commercial and fun purposes.
Lately i've been seeing a lot of animal abuse ranging from tigers being skinned alive for their fur and teeth, dogs being tied too tightly and not given proper food and most recently a cat being swung for some assholes' entertainment.
I'm an animal lover so perhaps some people may think i'm just being too emotional since i really love cats. Cats or no cats, i don't enjoy seeing animals being bullied or tortured. Killing for food is another story because that's survival instinct of mankind. Even animals kill each other to survive but they don't kill each other for fun and amusement.
When people watched animals being bullied, they think it's very funny. Tell me, what's so funny swinging the cat by it's tail? You think it doesn't hurt? You think just because the cat has the ability to land on all of its four feet it won't get hurt? Then swing a baby like that instead! Or a small child like that since you enjoy bullying harmless creatures. But we don't do that to human beings right? Why? Because the value of life for humans are more valuable than those of an animal? Who are we, as humans to say so since we are all created by the same God? The only difference between a human and an animal is that as humans, we are given intelligence, the ability to determine what's wrong and what's right and yet we can't use that wisely seeing all the abuses that are taking place.
Killing an animal deliberately for commercial purposes. Why shouldn't death punishment be given to such evil animal killers? Instead we just give them fine or imprisonment when they are being caught. When I see tigers being skinned for their fur, i prayed that those who did the tiger like that are being skinned like that. We give humans death penalty when they killed another human right?
There are good quality fake furs so why insist on buying the real furs? Do you like your human skin to be worn? Don't do things on animals which you don't like things being done to you.
Dogs are also another animal being commonly abused. Not given enough food despite having an owner and the leash around the dog is tied too tightly. Punishment for this? Do the same to the owner! Give him a TEST OF HIS BLOODY MEDICINE.
Freedom and rights. People around the world are so busy promoting gay rights and homosexual marriage to be legalized. You think this stuff are more important then fighting for the rights of animals? Of course, whatever is beneficial and good for humans will take more priority than what's good for animals. Rights that involved pain and suffering should take more priority than rights that just involved pleasure.
I may be a meat eater but it doesn't mean i give priority to certain animals. Humans are meant to be Omnivores, why in the hell did God give us "gigi taring"? The purpose of gigi taring is to bite into meat. Do you see Herbivore animals having such teeth? NO. That's why in Islam, when you slaughter animals to eat their meat, a proper slaughter mechanism is provided in order not to cause so much pain to the animals. Animals who are being slaughtered not according to Islam will result in the meat being non halal.
Besides that, in Islam, you can't eat animals with gigi taring (that's why our common food are chicken, cow, fish), hence you can't eat dogs and cats. those who eat cats and dogs are world class assholes and jackass.
Lately i've been seeing a lot of animal abuse ranging from tigers being skinned alive for their fur and teeth, dogs being tied too tightly and not given proper food and most recently a cat being swung for some assholes' entertainment.
I'm an animal lover so perhaps some people may think i'm just being too emotional since i really love cats. Cats or no cats, i don't enjoy seeing animals being bullied or tortured. Killing for food is another story because that's survival instinct of mankind. Even animals kill each other to survive but they don't kill each other for fun and amusement.
When people watched animals being bullied, they think it's very funny. Tell me, what's so funny swinging the cat by it's tail? You think it doesn't hurt? You think just because the cat has the ability to land on all of its four feet it won't get hurt? Then swing a baby like that instead! Or a small child like that since you enjoy bullying harmless creatures. But we don't do that to human beings right? Why? Because the value of life for humans are more valuable than those of an animal? Who are we, as humans to say so since we are all created by the same God? The only difference between a human and an animal is that as humans, we are given intelligence, the ability to determine what's wrong and what's right and yet we can't use that wisely seeing all the abuses that are taking place.
Killing an animal deliberately for commercial purposes. Why shouldn't death punishment be given to such evil animal killers? Instead we just give them fine or imprisonment when they are being caught. When I see tigers being skinned for their fur, i prayed that those who did the tiger like that are being skinned like that. We give humans death penalty when they killed another human right?
There are good quality fake furs so why insist on buying the real furs? Do you like your human skin to be worn? Don't do things on animals which you don't like things being done to you.
Dogs are also another animal being commonly abused. Not given enough food despite having an owner and the leash around the dog is tied too tightly. Punishment for this? Do the same to the owner! Give him a TEST OF HIS BLOODY MEDICINE.
Freedom and rights. People around the world are so busy promoting gay rights and homosexual marriage to be legalized. You think this stuff are more important then fighting for the rights of animals? Of course, whatever is beneficial and good for humans will take more priority than what's good for animals. Rights that involved pain and suffering should take more priority than rights that just involved pleasure.
I may be a meat eater but it doesn't mean i give priority to certain animals. Humans are meant to be Omnivores, why in the hell did God give us "gigi taring"? The purpose of gigi taring is to bite into meat. Do you see Herbivore animals having such teeth? NO. That's why in Islam, when you slaughter animals to eat their meat, a proper slaughter mechanism is provided in order not to cause so much pain to the animals. Animals who are being slaughtered not according to Islam will result in the meat being non halal.
Besides that, in Islam, you can't eat animals with gigi taring (that's why our common food are chicken, cow, fish), hence you can't eat dogs and cats. those who eat cats and dogs are world class assholes and jackass.
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Permission needed for underaged marriage: Syariah Court Chief Judge
Permission needed for underaged marriage: Syariah Court Chief Judge
So let me get this straight. If you are an underage person (in Kelantan), and want to get married, all you need to do is ...
1. Get permission or exception from kadi and give REASONABLE GROUNDS.
2. The pair have sufficient maturity and fertility.
What is wrong with this picture?
How in the hell in the first place can you be in love with an 11 year old (the case involved an 11 year old marrying a 40 year old man)? How in the hell a 40 year old is friends with an 11 year old unless they have family ties? Did they go on frequent dates and thus fall in love? What in the hell were the parents of the girl doing all this while?
One of the conditions for underage marriage is the pair have "sufficient maturity and fertility". No doubt the guy can fulfill this. As for the 11 year old girl, what is fertility? I assumed the moment the girl start having her 1st period since period indicates the girl is able to conceive a child. A girl as young as 8 years old can have period. But just because you are fertile, doesn't mean you are mature.
So how do you determine maturity? It's a very subjective thing. Are you matured enough if you can tell the difference between right and wrong? Or that you are able to make REASONABLE decisions like NOT GETTING MARRIED AT SUCH AN AGE. What is maturity? You can be a super genius (like that Adiputra boy who is a maths genius) but does that mean you are mature? Most people look mature physically but their minds and thinking are not mature.
What makes you think a child is mature? You give him/her 100 questions on general knowledge on life and see how she answers and hence, you can determine her maturity?
You can marry at a young age but NOT THAT FREAKING YOUNG no matter how mature you are. What, is she so damn horny that she needs to get married in order not to commit sins? She has a long way to complete her education. Are you telling me she will study during day time and then go back home, clean the house and prepare food for the husband. And what happens if she's going to have children? Forsake your education and be pregnant for the next 9 months?
What is marriage? The woman has to perform her duty as a wife while the husband has to perform his duty as a husband. You are going to let a 11 year old to cook and clean the whole house? Then when the husband comes back fulfill his needs and desire? Or perhaps the husband can claim his 11 year old bride can pursue her education and he won't interfere by giving her a lot of house chores. So really, what's the purpose and objective of marrying a 11 year old? All i see is that the husband will provide love and care for the underage wife while all she need to do is just be with him.
People, why are you encouraging children to fall in love? Am i the only one who sees a problem in this? I can't remember what's the statutory rape age here in Malaysia, below 16? or below 18? I think it's below 18. So why allow a person below the age of 18 to have bf or mix around with boys?
Now a days i see 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15 year olds have bfs and gfs. So why do society want to act so surprise if these people get raped, have child out of wedlock or get married or run off with their bfs? You allow such thing in the first place so be prepared for the consequences.
I was an 11 year old once. People say i was matured for my age (yes i look bigger and taller and whatever it is) and when i was in my early teens, some say i have a mature thinking. But now, being 24 years old, my maturity now is so much different compare to those years back then. Yes, in some way i was mature back then but i was very naive and stupid and too trustworthy, wanted to try everything and feeling my parents are holding me back. Im just glad that i never did anything seriously stupid back then and only at this age i can truly appreciate what my parents tried to do for me back then. I never appreciated my parents much when i was in my early teen years. That's why children need to be controlled. Controlled since they are young because once they reach 18 years old or older, it's a presumption they will be mature. At least this is a form of safety precaution.
So let me get this straight. If you are an underage person (in Kelantan), and want to get married, all you need to do is ...
1. Get permission or exception from kadi and give REASONABLE GROUNDS.
2. The pair have sufficient maturity and fertility.
What is wrong with this picture?
How in the hell in the first place can you be in love with an 11 year old (the case involved an 11 year old marrying a 40 year old man)? How in the hell a 40 year old is friends with an 11 year old unless they have family ties? Did they go on frequent dates and thus fall in love? What in the hell were the parents of the girl doing all this while?
One of the conditions for underage marriage is the pair have "sufficient maturity and fertility". No doubt the guy can fulfill this. As for the 11 year old girl, what is fertility? I assumed the moment the girl start having her 1st period since period indicates the girl is able to conceive a child. A girl as young as 8 years old can have period. But just because you are fertile, doesn't mean you are mature.
So how do you determine maturity? It's a very subjective thing. Are you matured enough if you can tell the difference between right and wrong? Or that you are able to make REASONABLE decisions like NOT GETTING MARRIED AT SUCH AN AGE. What is maturity? You can be a super genius (like that Adiputra boy who is a maths genius) but does that mean you are mature? Most people look mature physically but their minds and thinking are not mature.
What makes you think a child is mature? You give him/her 100 questions on general knowledge on life and see how she answers and hence, you can determine her maturity?
You can marry at a young age but NOT THAT FREAKING YOUNG no matter how mature you are. What, is she so damn horny that she needs to get married in order not to commit sins? She has a long way to complete her education. Are you telling me she will study during day time and then go back home, clean the house and prepare food for the husband. And what happens if she's going to have children? Forsake your education and be pregnant for the next 9 months?
What is marriage? The woman has to perform her duty as a wife while the husband has to perform his duty as a husband. You are going to let a 11 year old to cook and clean the whole house? Then when the husband comes back fulfill his needs and desire? Or perhaps the husband can claim his 11 year old bride can pursue her education and he won't interfere by giving her a lot of house chores. So really, what's the purpose and objective of marrying a 11 year old? All i see is that the husband will provide love and care for the underage wife while all she need to do is just be with him.
People, why are you encouraging children to fall in love? Am i the only one who sees a problem in this? I can't remember what's the statutory rape age here in Malaysia, below 16? or below 18? I think it's below 18. So why allow a person below the age of 18 to have bf or mix around with boys?
Now a days i see 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15 year olds have bfs and gfs. So why do society want to act so surprise if these people get raped, have child out of wedlock or get married or run off with their bfs? You allow such thing in the first place so be prepared for the consequences.
I was an 11 year old once. People say i was matured for my age (yes i look bigger and taller and whatever it is) and when i was in my early teens, some say i have a mature thinking. But now, being 24 years old, my maturity now is so much different compare to those years back then. Yes, in some way i was mature back then but i was very naive and stupid and too trustworthy, wanted to try everything and feeling my parents are holding me back. Im just glad that i never did anything seriously stupid back then and only at this age i can truly appreciate what my parents tried to do for me back then. I never appreciated my parents much when i was in my early teen years. That's why children need to be controlled. Controlled since they are young because once they reach 18 years old or older, it's a presumption they will be mature. At least this is a form of safety precaution.
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Shitty Days...
Shitty Days ... all thanks to my so called PMS, giving me all those foul moods, lowering down my self esteem, making me extra super duper sensitive etc etc... Kryptonite is the weakness of Superman, PMS is the weakness of me. PMS, comes once every month but last 1-2 weeks before my period.
I do not simply make PMS as an excuse to my foul moods because for the last 13 years since the very 1st time i had my period, my PMS got worse in my 20's because every month, i can see a typical pattern of my PMS and i've been keeping track on it for the past 3 years. Every month, i would most definitely cry and the smallest of matter can make me cry. Like yesterday, i was crying when i watched an episode of Heroes Season 4 where Peter's brother died. I can usually stop myself from crying but when it's PMS time, my PMS will overpower me.
There are some days when i love my body, and some days when i just hate how my body looks. And like today, i feel like a fat cow. My self esteem is just like shit for the past few days. For me, self esteem is like the most important weapon in your life against anyone. If you have high self esteem, no matter what negative things people say to you, you won't be bothered by it. People can keep calling you fat or ugly or whatever it is but if you think otherwise, you will never doubt how you look.
But the moment your self esteem is low, the slightest negative comment, be it indirectly, can make you start doubting yourself and thus you will feel miserable as hell.
Stupid imbalance hormones.
I do not simply make PMS as an excuse to my foul moods because for the last 13 years since the very 1st time i had my period, my PMS got worse in my 20's because every month, i can see a typical pattern of my PMS and i've been keeping track on it for the past 3 years. Every month, i would most definitely cry and the smallest of matter can make me cry. Like yesterday, i was crying when i watched an episode of Heroes Season 4 where Peter's brother died. I can usually stop myself from crying but when it's PMS time, my PMS will overpower me.
There are some days when i love my body, and some days when i just hate how my body looks. And like today, i feel like a fat cow. My self esteem is just like shit for the past few days. For me, self esteem is like the most important weapon in your life against anyone. If you have high self esteem, no matter what negative things people say to you, you won't be bothered by it. People can keep calling you fat or ugly or whatever it is but if you think otherwise, you will never doubt how you look.
But the moment your self esteem is low, the slightest negative comment, be it indirectly, can make you start doubting yourself and thus you will feel miserable as hell.
Stupid imbalance hormones.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Simplifying process of breaking up...
Why do people want to break up with you?
1. There's no future between the both of you.
2. Your partner is sick and tired of you.
3. Family disapprove of your relationship (this is so old fashion).
4. Your partner don't love you.
5. Third party.
6. And many more.
I've heard of the phrases "love you enough to let you go" or "do you love me enough to let me go". Personally for me, the MORE ACCURATE PHRASE is "I love myself enough to let you go". Why this phrase?
1. Everyone has their dignity. If somebody don't love you, or stopped loving you and says this straight to your face and if you cherish your dignity, you'll let that person go instead of begging that person for second chances. Don't stalk that person, don't say i love you to that person, don't try to fix things when your partner already gave you the ultimatum, don't do anything to jeopardize your dignity.
2. For those who have been CHEATED. i know some of you out there have the heart of an angel to the extent that you are willing to forgive your partner despite catching your partner with another person behind your back. Congrats, you are truly a saint! As for the rest of you out there, why don't just end it? there will be trust issues in the future if you were to continue the relationship. this happens because you never really forgive your partner but yet you don't have the guts to go through a breakup or another breakup. If you love yourself enough, break up with the cheater and find a loyal partner. why stick with a cheater, hoping that your partner really will change? There's a 50-50 chance your partner will or will not change.
3. If you think you are being treated like crap by your partner, then why not break up? I've seen idiotic people who are still in a relationship despite having partners that are abusive. Your partner is treating you like an object instead of a human. he doesn't have any respect for you. You know why? Why should anyone respect you if you let yourself be abused in some where? The more you do it, the more the person wants to abuse you. Abusive doesn't have to be beating you up badly, it can mean treating you roughly. Like the other day, i saw this couple arguing (i assume it's a couple and not brothers and sister), then i saw the guy pushed the girl roughly and walked away. If i was the girl, i will definitely dumped the bastard. A guy can say something mean to me and i can still tolerate with it but the moment he touches me roughly, i'll give him a bitch slap he'll never forget. Correction, punch pls. or a kick in the balls.
From my relationship experiences, i never think of myself being mean and selfish for asking a break up. i used to love my partner, then things started to turned sour. tried to solve the problem, but it couldn't be solved. I have no patience with the problems especially if it's an occurring problem. i find myself starting to love my partner less, find him more irritating and annoying. I tried to control myself from having these feelings, unfortunately it only got worst. because i don't love my partner anymore, i allowed myself to be friendly with other guys. The moment i find myself trying to distance myself from my partner, the more i realized it's time to break up. So better break up before i do anything stupid like cheating.
So in what way am i being selfish and mean to my ex partner? Instead of continuing the relationship, i choose to break up because whether or not i have a replacement for him, it's irrelevant. I didn't break up because of a third party, i broke up because i know i don't love him anyone and am capable of cheating if the relationship were to continue.
Some feelings can be controlled while some can't. You can never force someone to love you, neither could you make yourself try to love someone. So why get all hysterical about being a victim of a break up UNLESS you are cheated on? It's nothing extraordinary why a person stopped loving you, it could be for many reasons.
Now, the real bad ass people are those who choose to remain in a relationship, pretending there are no problems in the relationship and pretending that he or she is not annoyed by the problems in the relationship. Because of the problems that he choose to ignored, he seeks comfort in another person, hence the affairs and cheating...
It's easier said than done. but i've been there before. it hurts to ignore someone you really like or love but because i love myself more and don't want to look desperate, i can ignore that person easily. It takes strong will and a strong heart but it eventually pays off when you don't even remember that person.
1. There's no future between the both of you.
2. Your partner is sick and tired of you.
3. Family disapprove of your relationship (this is so old fashion).
4. Your partner don't love you.
5. Third party.
6. And many more.
I've heard of the phrases "love you enough to let you go" or "do you love me enough to let me go". Personally for me, the MORE ACCURATE PHRASE is "I love myself enough to let you go". Why this phrase?
1. Everyone has their dignity. If somebody don't love you, or stopped loving you and says this straight to your face and if you cherish your dignity, you'll let that person go instead of begging that person for second chances. Don't stalk that person, don't say i love you to that person, don't try to fix things when your partner already gave you the ultimatum, don't do anything to jeopardize your dignity.
2. For those who have been CHEATED. i know some of you out there have the heart of an angel to the extent that you are willing to forgive your partner despite catching your partner with another person behind your back. Congrats, you are truly a saint! As for the rest of you out there, why don't just end it? there will be trust issues in the future if you were to continue the relationship. this happens because you never really forgive your partner but yet you don't have the guts to go through a breakup or another breakup. If you love yourself enough, break up with the cheater and find a loyal partner. why stick with a cheater, hoping that your partner really will change? There's a 50-50 chance your partner will or will not change.
3. If you think you are being treated like crap by your partner, then why not break up? I've seen idiotic people who are still in a relationship despite having partners that are abusive. Your partner is treating you like an object instead of a human. he doesn't have any respect for you. You know why? Why should anyone respect you if you let yourself be abused in some where? The more you do it, the more the person wants to abuse you. Abusive doesn't have to be beating you up badly, it can mean treating you roughly. Like the other day, i saw this couple arguing (i assume it's a couple and not brothers and sister), then i saw the guy pushed the girl roughly and walked away. If i was the girl, i will definitely dumped the bastard. A guy can say something mean to me and i can still tolerate with it but the moment he touches me roughly, i'll give him a bitch slap he'll never forget. Correction, punch pls. or a kick in the balls.
From my relationship experiences, i never think of myself being mean and selfish for asking a break up. i used to love my partner, then things started to turned sour. tried to solve the problem, but it couldn't be solved. I have no patience with the problems especially if it's an occurring problem. i find myself starting to love my partner less, find him more irritating and annoying. I tried to control myself from having these feelings, unfortunately it only got worst. because i don't love my partner anymore, i allowed myself to be friendly with other guys. The moment i find myself trying to distance myself from my partner, the more i realized it's time to break up. So better break up before i do anything stupid like cheating.
So in what way am i being selfish and mean to my ex partner? Instead of continuing the relationship, i choose to break up because whether or not i have a replacement for him, it's irrelevant. I didn't break up because of a third party, i broke up because i know i don't love him anyone and am capable of cheating if the relationship were to continue.
Some feelings can be controlled while some can't. You can never force someone to love you, neither could you make yourself try to love someone. So why get all hysterical about being a victim of a break up UNLESS you are cheated on? It's nothing extraordinary why a person stopped loving you, it could be for many reasons.
Now, the real bad ass people are those who choose to remain in a relationship, pretending there are no problems in the relationship and pretending that he or she is not annoyed by the problems in the relationship. Because of the problems that he choose to ignored, he seeks comfort in another person, hence the affairs and cheating...
It's easier said than done. but i've been there before. it hurts to ignore someone you really like or love but because i love myself more and don't want to look desperate, i can ignore that person easily. It takes strong will and a strong heart but it eventually pays off when you don't even remember that person.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Parenting
i just felt like blogging on this matter because lately in Malaysia, there have been a lot of cases of child being abused to death or newborns murdered to cover up the fact that the woman had a child out of wedlock.
As for me, my dream to become a parent is only 10%. I know myself way too well to know that i'm still not ready to be a parent because it's a hard job. Being a parent requires A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITIES. Not only must you have the financial means but you must have the parenting skills. Strict and disciplined parenting skills.
I was having my dinner at KFC yesterday when i saw this little girl, who's less than 5 years old, had her hair dyed. More like highlight because only one part of her hair that is dyed like blondish colour. I don't think it's proper to dye the hair of a little girl. Firstly because dyeing hair is unhealthy and secondly it just doesn't seem right for a little girl to do what mostly adults are doing. Even in secondary schools you are not allowed to dye your hair. Plus dyeing the wrong colour and which doesn't suit you will just make you end up looking like a prostitute.
At times i would see parents dressed up their children like 'mini sluts'. Skirts which are too short, tubes, halter tops or really very short tight shorts. Why do you want to dress your child like this? Once your child is old enough, she'll dress like that if she decides to. doing this is like training her to like this kind of fashion. Some parents think it's harmless to dress your child is such a way because they don't have developed sexual parts. Regardless of that, you'll only attract the unnecessary attention of pedophiles which is lurking silently among us.
Sometimes i just feel beyond irritated when i see children already behaving like adults by the way they talk. Talking as if they are some kind of character from that lame High School musical show.
Then you have parents who simply let their children walk alone, especially on their way back to school. Occasionally i would see primary school children walking back alone, some alone and some in groups of 2 or 4. You think walking in a group is safe? Your child is small, any adult can overpower them, especially if the adult is big and strong. And you expect society to feel sorry when your child is kidnapped? You knew very well there's such danger existing yet you decided to take that risk anyway because you don't have the time to pick or send your child to schools. Or don't have the money to provide transportation for your child.
The most irritating thing of all is that some parents produce soooooooooooooo many children despite not having the financial means to take care of the children. Why people? Why? some gave lame and stupid excuses like "anak tu rezeki Tuhan"... of course children are blessings from God but you need to take initiatives not to get pregnant if you know you can't afford to have another child. God won't simply BURDEN you with another child. If you keep having sex without precautions, of course you are bound to be pregnant.
In this modern time, it's hard to raise a child. Of course it's easing to raise a child at the early years but once a child is entering his/her teen years, it's a matter for survival for your child and yourself as a parent. I was a teen before, and i didn't had it easy for me nor did i make it easy for my dad. At this age of 24, i'm so much matured than when i was 15, 16 or 17 (a difficult stage of growing up). I realized all the stupid mistakes i did in those teen years and was lucky enough to get away with it. My dad was a bad tempered person at that time which made it difficult for me but now he's less bad tempered and i have become more understanding.
People never think and plan before having children. Hence, the later difficulties they faced when bringing up one.
As for me, my dream to become a parent is only 10%. I know myself way too well to know that i'm still not ready to be a parent because it's a hard job. Being a parent requires A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITIES. Not only must you have the financial means but you must have the parenting skills. Strict and disciplined parenting skills.
I was having my dinner at KFC yesterday when i saw this little girl, who's less than 5 years old, had her hair dyed. More like highlight because only one part of her hair that is dyed like blondish colour. I don't think it's proper to dye the hair of a little girl. Firstly because dyeing hair is unhealthy and secondly it just doesn't seem right for a little girl to do what mostly adults are doing. Even in secondary schools you are not allowed to dye your hair. Plus dyeing the wrong colour and which doesn't suit you will just make you end up looking like a prostitute.
At times i would see parents dressed up their children like 'mini sluts'. Skirts which are too short, tubes, halter tops or really very short tight shorts. Why do you want to dress your child like this? Once your child is old enough, she'll dress like that if she decides to. doing this is like training her to like this kind of fashion. Some parents think it's harmless to dress your child is such a way because they don't have developed sexual parts. Regardless of that, you'll only attract the unnecessary attention of pedophiles which is lurking silently among us.
Sometimes i just feel beyond irritated when i see children already behaving like adults by the way they talk. Talking as if they are some kind of character from that lame High School musical show.
Then you have parents who simply let their children walk alone, especially on their way back to school. Occasionally i would see primary school children walking back alone, some alone and some in groups of 2 or 4. You think walking in a group is safe? Your child is small, any adult can overpower them, especially if the adult is big and strong. And you expect society to feel sorry when your child is kidnapped? You knew very well there's such danger existing yet you decided to take that risk anyway because you don't have the time to pick or send your child to schools. Or don't have the money to provide transportation for your child.
The most irritating thing of all is that some parents produce soooooooooooooo many children despite not having the financial means to take care of the children. Why people? Why? some gave lame and stupid excuses like "anak tu rezeki Tuhan"... of course children are blessings from God but you need to take initiatives not to get pregnant if you know you can't afford to have another child. God won't simply BURDEN you with another child. If you keep having sex without precautions, of course you are bound to be pregnant.
In this modern time, it's hard to raise a child. Of course it's easing to raise a child at the early years but once a child is entering his/her teen years, it's a matter for survival for your child and yourself as a parent. I was a teen before, and i didn't had it easy for me nor did i make it easy for my dad. At this age of 24, i'm so much matured than when i was 15, 16 or 17 (a difficult stage of growing up). I realized all the stupid mistakes i did in those teen years and was lucky enough to get away with it. My dad was a bad tempered person at that time which made it difficult for me but now he's less bad tempered and i have become more understanding.
People never think and plan before having children. Hence, the later difficulties they faced when bringing up one.
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Reality of relationships
I cam across an article about the relationship about men and women. The writer was listing down things which men do that women don't like, basically the title was pretty much the same thing. It affords some guidelines as to the irritating things that men do that just pisses women off. It's a good article in the sense that as a woman, i felt that all the irritating things that are being listed really do get on my nerves and turned me off about men. Example, turning women into sexual objects via advertisements, video games etc. Making women dressed in sexy and provocative clothes in order to sell things. A lot of female characters in video games are depicted with extremely large boobs. I was telling a friend before that the maker of the video games are PERVERTS and so are the buyers of such video games. Not to sound insulting but Japan is like the pornography of Asia. Look at their "animes". They don't have to be "hentais" to scream sexual contents.
Despite being a good article, i wonder whether men actually read it since men don't really read stuff unless there's sexual connotation to it. If only few men read it, then it'll be pointless since the article is aimed for men to be more aware of their "annoying" habits. Sure men do read stuff but when it comes to 'caring' and 'pleasing' women, they don't really care. Well, if im wrong and that men do actually READ A LOT on things about women necessity and sex stuff, im sorry for being shallow.
For guys out there, who find it DIFFICULT to get women, this is the reality :
A. How to attract a lot of women? Where they will come to you like bees attracted to honey :
1. You are good looking with good body.
2. You are filthy rich.
3. Good in bed? Hardly that important if you are talking about physical attraction (as in things that you can see on the outside). Being good in bed is probably important if you want to keep a woman.
P/s : there's a lot of women like this and from the looks of things, men don't really care if a woman is a gold digger as long as he's being surrounded by a lot of pretty hot women willing to fulfill his needs. Somehow a lot of men have this EXTREMELY LAME mentality that if they have a lot of women at their feet, it means they are "cool" and "happening". Whatever. "Buying" women doesn't make you a cool person.
B. How to attract women for a lasting relationship :
1. Stop acting like a naturally born pervert. One can be naughty, but not pervert. I'm sure you can tell the difference.
2. Respect a woman and you shall equally be respected by the woman.
3. Be more considerate of their feelings because they are sensitive. Never touch on weight. This need a lot of elaboration but i hope you can figure it out yourself.
4. Give constant attention. Women are like cats. They carve for attention.
P/s : in this modern age, women can be as equally bad as men. they are a lot of cheating women out there. Sometimes it takes experiences in relationship to figure out what went wrong in your past relationships. They key is never trust someone 100% no matter how much you think they can be trusted or how they seem to look like a trustworthy person.
Despite being a good article, i wonder whether men actually read it since men don't really read stuff unless there's sexual connotation to it. If only few men read it, then it'll be pointless since the article is aimed for men to be more aware of their "annoying" habits. Sure men do read stuff but when it comes to 'caring' and 'pleasing' women, they don't really care. Well, if im wrong and that men do actually READ A LOT on things about women necessity and sex stuff, im sorry for being shallow.
For guys out there, who find it DIFFICULT to get women, this is the reality :
A. How to attract a lot of women? Where they will come to you like bees attracted to honey :
1. You are good looking with good body.
2. You are filthy rich.
3. Good in bed? Hardly that important if you are talking about physical attraction (as in things that you can see on the outside). Being good in bed is probably important if you want to keep a woman.
P/s : there's a lot of women like this and from the looks of things, men don't really care if a woman is a gold digger as long as he's being surrounded by a lot of pretty hot women willing to fulfill his needs. Somehow a lot of men have this EXTREMELY LAME mentality that if they have a lot of women at their feet, it means they are "cool" and "happening". Whatever. "Buying" women doesn't make you a cool person.
B. How to attract women for a lasting relationship :
1. Stop acting like a naturally born pervert. One can be naughty, but not pervert. I'm sure you can tell the difference.
2. Respect a woman and you shall equally be respected by the woman.
3. Be more considerate of their feelings because they are sensitive. Never touch on weight. This need a lot of elaboration but i hope you can figure it out yourself.
4. Give constant attention. Women are like cats. They carve for attention.
P/s : in this modern age, women can be as equally bad as men. they are a lot of cheating women out there. Sometimes it takes experiences in relationship to figure out what went wrong in your past relationships. They key is never trust someone 100% no matter how much you think they can be trusted or how they seem to look like a trustworthy person.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Monday, March 1, 2010
Just Thinking
I was just thinking that in matters of affairs and cheating, one shouldn't really be mad at the person who your partner is cheating on. The responsibility is on your partner not to cheat. So you deserve to kill your cheating partner and be thankful to the person who your partner is cheating on for showing the "true colours" of your partner.
And you really think you can forgive your partner after he/she cheated you the first time? Even if you can, there will be "trust issues". Quoting Friedrich Nietzsche "I'm not upset that you lied to me. I'm upset from now on I can't believe in you". There's the problem when you cheat in a relationship, you lose the trust of your partner.
So it's like that Daphne Iking's case. Why would Daphne Iking's husband want to charge the guy who is alleged to have affair with Daphne Iking for attempting to take away his wife? If the law wants to make such law, an affair should be proven and the offender should be the married spouse for being the one who broke the marriage vows. Perhaps the person who the spouse had affair with should be charge for abetting in the affair :-). Hell, if this were to really happen, imagine all the slutty and whorish mistresses who have affair with a married man, so many will end up in prison or being fined :-D.
Pretentious Relationships
1. Do we remain in an unhappy relationship out of obligation?
2. Are we in a relationship to cover up something?
3. Are we just plain lazy to start over a new relationship when the current one seems to be failing?
4. Are we in an unhappy relationship because we have HIGH TOLERANCE towards things which we are not happy about?
The longest relationship that i had was 2 years ++. When im in love, im really really in love. And when i'm NOT in love, im really really really not in love. When im not happy in a relationship, i choose to do something about it. First i try to SOLVE the problem. If i can't, i try to ACCEPT the problem, and if i still can't, i END the problem a.k.a BREAK UP.
When it comes to solving, both parties have to try solving it. When one refuses to change, then the other have to accept. The person who tries to accept have to be very tolerant and patient. Hence, if he or she isn't patient enough, hence the break up which is the ULTIMATUM.
I don't want to be in an unhappy relationship where i don't feel the love that i had before towards my partner. Once you don't feel the love, you know very well you have to end it. If i choose to be in that unhappy relationship, i will have to put up with the annoying things and frustration which are the causes of my unhappiness. Rather than putting up with these nonsense, i rather be ALONE. And that's the problem with people. They are afraid to be alone and don't want to be alone. For them, better have an annoying partner than be alone.
Sure you are in a relationship, sure you are married, but are you happy? If you are happy, we do you need to do things behind your partners back? Why do you still choose to sleep around despite being in a relationship? Won't you do your partner a favour if you just break up with him/her and then do whatever it is that you want to do that you can't do because you are in a relationship?
If you can't commit, why pretend to commit? If you are a womanizer, why even bother to be in a relationship? Sure you think you would change if you are married, but if you still didn't change, don't you think the better option is to end that relationship? But instead you prefer to live by the rule "what you don't know won't hurt you".
When i choose to break up, i think i'm doing my ex a favour although it may look as if im an impatient mean bitchy. Firstly, it's easy to accept a break up when it's still in its early stages, like if the relationship is less than 3 years. Secondly, when you are no longer in love with your partner, you will have the tendency to stray off, being attracted to another person who you most definitely will think is 100% better than your pain in the pass current partner that always make you unhappy. Because i don't want to have an affair while with my partner, might as well i end that relationship and then be with someone new because if i actually continue with that unhappy relationship and along came a person who i really like, it would look as if i choose to end the relationship because of this new person, where else the fact is i already decided that the relationship was doomed long time ago when the burning passion of love for my partner had died out.
Some people choose to be in unhappy relationship because they are scared they can't find a replacement. As far as i'm concern, regardless whether i can find a better man than my ex, i'll end the relationship anyway because the MAIN REASON why i break up is because i find it useless to be in a relationship with someone i don't love. And i really don't care if i'm not able to be in a relationship after the break up. It's a risk that i can live with and i have no regrets for the past.
2. Are we in a relationship to cover up something?
3. Are we just plain lazy to start over a new relationship when the current one seems to be failing?
4. Are we in an unhappy relationship because we have HIGH TOLERANCE towards things which we are not happy about?
The longest relationship that i had was 2 years ++. When im in love, im really really in love. And when i'm NOT in love, im really really really not in love. When im not happy in a relationship, i choose to do something about it. First i try to SOLVE the problem. If i can't, i try to ACCEPT the problem, and if i still can't, i END the problem a.k.a BREAK UP.
When it comes to solving, both parties have to try solving it. When one refuses to change, then the other have to accept. The person who tries to accept have to be very tolerant and patient. Hence, if he or she isn't patient enough, hence the break up which is the ULTIMATUM.
I don't want to be in an unhappy relationship where i don't feel the love that i had before towards my partner. Once you don't feel the love, you know very well you have to end it. If i choose to be in that unhappy relationship, i will have to put up with the annoying things and frustration which are the causes of my unhappiness. Rather than putting up with these nonsense, i rather be ALONE. And that's the problem with people. They are afraid to be alone and don't want to be alone. For them, better have an annoying partner than be alone.
Sure you are in a relationship, sure you are married, but are you happy? If you are happy, we do you need to do things behind your partners back? Why do you still choose to sleep around despite being in a relationship? Won't you do your partner a favour if you just break up with him/her and then do whatever it is that you want to do that you can't do because you are in a relationship?
If you can't commit, why pretend to commit? If you are a womanizer, why even bother to be in a relationship? Sure you think you would change if you are married, but if you still didn't change, don't you think the better option is to end that relationship? But instead you prefer to live by the rule "what you don't know won't hurt you".
When i choose to break up, i think i'm doing my ex a favour although it may look as if im an impatient mean bitchy. Firstly, it's easy to accept a break up when it's still in its early stages, like if the relationship is less than 3 years. Secondly, when you are no longer in love with your partner, you will have the tendency to stray off, being attracted to another person who you most definitely will think is 100% better than your pain in the pass current partner that always make you unhappy. Because i don't want to have an affair while with my partner, might as well i end that relationship and then be with someone new because if i actually continue with that unhappy relationship and along came a person who i really like, it would look as if i choose to end the relationship because of this new person, where else the fact is i already decided that the relationship was doomed long time ago when the burning passion of love for my partner had died out.
Some people choose to be in unhappy relationship because they are scared they can't find a replacement. As far as i'm concern, regardless whether i can find a better man than my ex, i'll end the relationship anyway because the MAIN REASON why i break up is because i find it useless to be in a relationship with someone i don't love. And i really don't care if i'm not able to be in a relationship after the break up. It's a risk that i can live with and i have no regrets for the past.
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