Hmmm people will probably wonder why am i blogging about marriage since i'm not married and have ZERO experience in marriage. Well, do you need to be a drug addict or an alcoholic first before you can say it's bad or not good? All you need is observations and stories that supports your observations to know it's true.
As a non married happily single person, i sit back and relax and come across married men who cheated and hear stories of married men who cheated. Basically my life is filled with real stories of people who have affairs.
Men who polygamy behind the wife's back is a form of indirect but legal cheating. Just because you can marry that whore behind my back LEGALLY you think you didn't cheat on me before you were married to her? All the "secret datings" with your new whore of a wife that eventually lead to your 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriage are cheatings. What makes you think cheating is only limited to SEX? For me, cheating is when you have feelings for another person and you actually went on dates with the person or you have sex with another person. But of course, secret polygamy is a form of cheating that makes a man less guilty for having cheated on his wife.
Lately i've been hearing stories of husbands being deprived months of no sex. That's quite sad especially if you are just in your 20's and 30's. Marriage is a symbiosis relationship. The husband look after the wife financially while the wife looks after the husband sexually. Why else do most men say that he will stop all his flirting and sleeping around before he gets married? He hopes that when he gets married, he'll get unlimited sex from his wife which will prevent him from sleeping around.
I don't know why the women refused to have sex with the husband.... The reason varies which includes no mood, just don't like sex, sleepy, not horny, husband not good in bed, etc. Well, husband not good in bed, that's a big problem which only can be settled between the partners themselves. How is it the husband is not good in bed? erectile dysfunction --> that should be your major concern. Husband not romantic enough? All these you need to point out because you are already married to him. I know it's embarrassing and awkward to talk about but sometimes you just have to sound like a mean bitch to get what you want. Then if you choose to keep quite bout it, you'll find another man to fulfill your lust?
As for women who just don't like the idea of sex, you'll just have to deal with it unless you don't mind your husband sleeping around because i think there are some women who don't mind. Why not? She gets to remain in the marriage and be financially supported while other women please her husband sexually, something which she is glad she doesn't have to do. That's what you call marriage without love. No jealousy, no love. But please don't be excessively jealous... that's bad and suffocating for the relationship.
Going back to men...
Those who are being deprived months of sex, i feel sorry for you but you just have to demand it from your wife. Cheating is not an option. If you want to cheat, better divorce.
On the other hand, some men are not deprived of sex from the wife but he simply wants to have have a string of affairs for the thrill of it. This is what you call fucked up assholes. This kind of species shouldn't be married in the first place.
Relationship is complicated and hard. When there's a problem, either you deal with it or you don't. If you choose to deal with it, your partner may be offended by the problem you have with him/her. But if you don't deal with that problem, it might cause you to have an affair with another person. Sometimes i think, if the problem is such a big thing to extend it can cause you to sleep with another person, why not just divorce/break it off with your partner? That my dear friends, is what you call being selfish. An affair is temporary but a partner is for a life time.
The way i look at relationships now a days, loyalty has been made redundant.
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