Lately, i've been seeing a lot of videos on bully. To be more precise, i've seen about 4 or 5 videos of it and the participants and victim of the bullying are girls. Hell, they look like normal girls and not those tomboyish girls. So far the videos are all Chinese girls,so i can't understand what the argument was about. I've seen a vid of 2 Malay girls fighting over a boy and that's cat fight. Not bullying. But there's another video which i saw, where a Malay gay boy (he behaves so gay) keep on slapping a Malay girl. That one is bullying since he seems to be angry that the girl reported him to the teacher or something. But it's not a group bullying.
I guess bullying can be in a form of groups or between 2 people.
So putting myself in the place of those who like to bully, i'm thinking why do some people like to bully other people. These are my theories :
1. Some people get annoyed and irritated at the sight of "weak" and quiet people. Perhaps the victim of the bullying LOOKS annoying to the bullies. You know sometimes you have this naturally feeling when you just don't like someone? Some people choose to live that person alone despite not liking that person while there are some who feel he "needs" to do something against that person to get rid of the irritation and annoyance he has towards the victim.
2. Common reason is POWER. When you bully, means you are powerful. You enjoy people fearing you. You think you can get anything you want from the victims of your bullying.
When i see these videos of girls bullying another girl, it reminds me of women who are being abused by their husbands/bfs. My question is, why do some men enjoy hitting women on a frequent basis?
1. Such men are just very fucked up assholes actually. They are very bad tempered people. They release their anger on women because women can't fight back.
2. Women make easy target because not only don't they fight back, they never report the abuse. Some women are SO TIMID that they just let people abuse them and humiliate them. They won't retaliate. When you don't retaliate, the abuser thinks you are an easy target. The abuser have ZERO RESPECT on such people. Why do you want to respect such people? They can't even stand up for themselves and they let themselves being used as punching bags. Because the abuser has no respect for you, he thinks you deserved to be hit, punched and kicked.
In a relationship between a man and a woman, i always believe that the woman shouldn't let the man dominate TOO MUCH over her. I was waiting for the bus one day and i saw this couple were arguing. Then i saw the man pushed her roughly and he walked away leaving her alone. She looks like she's about to cry. I felt like i wanted to slap that asshole. If i was the girl, I'll tell him to fuck off and i definitely won't be with him anymore. And i don't care if he says he's sorry and won't do it anymore. This kind of thing you can't really give face.
Of course, i've seen some instances when the woman is so bitchy that she deserved a tight slap or a punch in the face. People always think it's unfair for a man to hit a woman because he's physically stronger. That's true but i always think that if a woman slap a man, the man should slap her too. You want equality with men, i give you equality. Men have their pride too. So if a woman is bitchy via words, the man should give her a piece of his mind via words too instead of getting physical.
Back to the issue on "bully". I noticed something similar among the videos i watched. The victim never fight back. She just stands there while the bullies take turns to hit her. It's not like as if she's freaking small, she's almost the same sizes with the bullies. So why in the hell she didn't fight back? Sometimes it's hard for me to feel sorry for the victim because i feel the victim is so stupid in not fighting back when someone hit you like that. If you were rape, you won't fight back too? It's a different story if someone threatened you with a gun or knife.
When you don't fight back, the bullies love it even more, it makes them want to hit you harder because they think you are like a dumb doll or something.
It's very hard for me to sympathize with victims of bully and abuse because i find that they don't respect themselves enough to the extent that they don't report. Tell me, is your love for your husband greater than your dignity that you let your husband abuse you, thinking he'll change one day? How long will you give him to change? 2 years? 5 years? 10 years? As for victims of bully, what is so hard to report? You are willing to endure long term of bullying until a video of you being bullied surfaced and the public wants to help you then? You never even bother to help yourself in the first place and you expect others to help you? Of course the public is more compassionate compare to me and you will most definitely get the public's sympathy. yes, i know i sound like some kind of non compassionate bitch. Like how I've emphasized in my blogs, i'm more compassionate to animals because animals are not given the intelligence to think like humans. As a human, you can think. You don't put yourself in a pitiful situation if you can prevent it. Animals on the other hand are helpless beings, especially like cats and dogs.
Sometimes when i see someone kick a cat, i'll get so upset. Do you like it if i kick you, bitch? Animals are helpless because when people hit or kicked them, they can't complain about it. But humans? They can.
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