Bad Things - Privacy or Hypocrisy?

This is about good and bad things that happened to you...

Why DO people tell each other GOOD THINGS?

1. They want to share happiness together OR
2. They want to boast OR
3. They tell when being asked about it.

Why WON'T people tell each other GOOD THINGS?

1. They won't tell when not asked OR
2. If they tell, others may think they are being boastful, especially since they never ask you OR
3. To some, some good things can be privacy.

Why DO people tell each other BAD THINGS?

1. Seeking advice or sympathy or opinion.

Why WON'T people tell each other BAD THINGS?

1. Privacy OR
2. It's an embarrassing matter for them.


So the issue here is that some people only want to share the good and happy things that happened to them, thus giving the impression that his life is all perfect. Is it good to give the impression that your life all perfect? That you are invisible and immunized from problems? The General Rule here is that, NOBODY IS PERFECT, no matter how rich or beautiful the person is.

It is further irritating when people tell good things WITHOUT being asked, giving the impression they are being boastful. Of course not all good things which you tell may make you look boastful. Example, if you are going to get married, engaged, get a baby, get a new job, etc.

One common irritating scenario that i face during my schooling years is when it comes to exam results. I observed people telling others that they happily PASSED the exams when no one asked them. Which is a good thing because you are sharing the JOY of your happiness in passing the exams. But then this same person WON'T tell you he FAILED another exam. The funny thing is that, you tell people you pass without people asking you but you won't tell people you fail? And when people ACTUALLY ASK YOU (which you may accuse the person of being insensitive and busy body), you give a very vague answer as to whether you pass or not. Then if you pass an exam you will be busy calling people about their results so that you too can have the opportunity to tell them you passed BUT if you FAILED your exams, you will be MISSING IN ACTION a.k.a won't pick up calls, won't keep in touch with your friends, etc.

Some claim bad things are privacy. One shouldn't tell bad things because it might give bad impression to those who are involved with the "bad things". Example, like marriage. If your marriage is not doing well, why do you let others think it's all perfect and harmony when they ASKED you how it's doing? You don' have to tell them the juicy details on WHAT kind of marriage problems you are having, just tell them it's having its ups and downs and is not as perfect as they claim to be. Because imagine, if 10 years you have been telling your friends how perfect your marriage is and suddenly you get a divorce, obviously people will be shocked and perhaps talked even more about it because it's UNEXPECTED. Of course have you told them the truth, perhaps the divorce is expected.

Yes, bad things are embarrassing. It happened to me too but i think from the POSITIVE view of it despite you might not agree with me. Personally for me, divorce is not embarrassing but to some it's very embarrassing. And personally i think you think it's embarrassing because YOU CARE TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK. And why do you care so much? Have you been misleading people into letting them think that they your marriage is flawless? Then that's your problem.

It's simple, if you keep the good things to yourself instead of telling without being asked, then you deserved to keep the bad things to yourself. Why not? You chose not to disclose both good and bad things. but if you are always telling people the good stuff, obviously people will keep on asking more and more about that matter, and probably will want to know any bad things that might happened.

Just like Celebrities. They want to show off how glamourous and hip and happening their life style is, encouraging paparazzis and media to sensationalized those good things. Then when they are in deep shit whereupon they face criminal charges, relationship scandals, etc, they want the media to get off their back. Do you think it's fair? Not at all. Don't expect the media just to report on the good stuff and leave out the bad stuff. Have you not been a MEDIA WHORE, the media wouldn't even be interested in the good and bad things that happened to you.

Nobody is perfect in this world. So don't bother to attempt to be one. And SCREW JEALOUSY. Be content with what you have. You think others have what you want to have, but think and be proud that others may not have what you have.