Men and Mascara

For these past few weeks, i've been obsessed with Mascara, all thanks to the Maybeline "Long Extreme Double Stretch" mascara. It was a good mascara, i like the effect of it, makes my eyelashes noticeable and make it longer. Mascara's main objective is to volumnized and elongate your eyelashes. Some claimed to make your eyelashes more curled. If you are blessed with super thick curled up eyelashes (like my 8 year old boy cousin!), you won't need mascara.

There's also the option of FAKE EYELASHES. Just glue it on your upper eyelid or something. Never tried it because i was never interested in it because i think it's too fake. I like to work with what i've got, enhanced it. It's like wearing push up bra or getting silicone. One is temporary, the other is permanent but both have the effect of making your breasts look bigger. Push up bra isn't entirely fake because only if you have some boobs will the push up bra worked (unless you have super duper water silicone push up bra or you stuff a lot of tissues in your bra). Silicone on the other is totally fake because you can have a flat chest and with a little help from silicone on the left and right, taa daa, you have two fake big boobs.

Like with mascara, if your original eyelashes isn't that long or thick, then perhaps the effect isn't that great compare if you were to wear fake eyelashes.

So back to my mascara story. After experiencing how good the Maybeline mascara was, i wanted to try a few other mascara, see whether the effect was equally good or even better. So i tried a few, it was disappointing despite the fact that it was a branded brand. Like there's this one Loreal brand for mascara, it's a 2 way mascara, just like the Maybeline, meaning you apply the white applicator first then the black one. But the problem with Loreal is that it makes my eyelashes look hard and clumpy. With Maybeline, it's smooth and look more natural.

So what's the connection with MEN?

If our current partner is good, doesn't cause any problems in the relationship, then you should keep him. Don't be tempted by other man who may just "look" promising on the surface because he's attractive or rich. You don't really know his personality that well. Why be greedy?

So my lesson with mascara is that if my current Maybeline mascara is satisfactory, i shouldn't get another mascara despite the ads saying it will make my eyelashes 5 TIMES THICKER and LONGER.. Coz those are just BS.. Some anyway. Be happy with what you have. Actually, this apply to lipgloss as well.. and probably any other beauty products

The Era of Gays

Firstly, let me identify several type of gays.

1. Manly gay. This kind of gay look and act like any normal macho man. You won't know he's gay unless he tells you. He can also be bisexual. Definitely dangerous because you can't tell and if you, a woman, end up with such a man, you will be humiliated when you find out your partner is gay or bisexual. Gay because he thought he can straight and bisexual because he has sexual urges to both men and women.

2. Transvestites. Dresses and does his make up like a woman. Act and walk like a woman. Some undergo penis removal, some don't.

3. Look like a man, act like a woman gay. This kind of gay, doesn't wear makeup or dresses like a woman. But he walks, acts and talks like a woman. They like to do that irritating thing with their "hand" when they talk. When a girl does it, it makes her look like snobbish biatch but when a man does it, it's soo gay because only a woman will do it.

4. Soft spoken gay. This type may or may not be gay. But most probably will be gay especially if he looks like a "pretty boy". Some men are so soft spoken that it will make you think either he's way too well mannered and gentleman OR he's gay. This kind of man can be bisexual too.

Every time i'm at a shopping mall, i will at least see MINIMUM one man who will walk and talk like a woman. In addition to that, i will see at least ONE TRANSVESTITE working in one of the boutiques in a shopping mall. They are most commonly seen at the perfume department. And they are very common working at Body Shop and Elianto. One thing i can praise about them is that they are good promoters.

Religion wise, homosexuality is WRONG. Prophet Lut's story says so. Sure, religion tells us not to condemn and degrade people, and we shouldn't discriminate against the gays but we definitely SHOULDN'T ACKNOWLEDGE their rights. There shouldn't be gay marriage and gay partners shouldn't be recognised as a spouse at law. Doing so will only encouraged them.

As straight people, we shouldn't prevent them from entering the mosque, church, temple or any other place of worship just because of their perverted sexual orientation. Of course, as a respect to the religion, gay people shouldn't parade their gayness in such places. They can do their gay stuff in private. Its like, you don't dress like you are going to clubs to places of worship out of respect.

I prefer those times when gay is so taboo that nobody dare talks about it and people won't go around admitting they are gay and media will never try to touch on the topic of gay. But NOW, everything is all about GAY. Gay this, gay that. Every drama series i watch, they are gays. GAY MEN. Like Glee and True Blood. There will be one character who champions the role of gay.

The issue of gay is like the issue of prostitute. Both of these are morally wrong. But yet you have some countries legalizing prostitution because some idiots think that legalizing prostitution will make women "safer" in the sense they won't be sexually abuse and if they are abused, they can launched a complaint since prostitution is legal. Why do i find this argument bullshit?

In contract, if you enter into an illegal transaction and you KNOW ABOUT IT, you have to bear the consequences, in other words you won't be awarded any remedy. one of the maxims of equity is that "equity will not permit a party to profit by his own wrong".

Aside from that, the prostitute can just sue for battery or assault, who cares whether you commit and offence? If a police catches a thief and he brutally abuses the non violent thief, that will still amount to police brutality and the police can be liable for it and he can't say in defence that the guy was a thief. So really, i don't see the point of legalizing prostitution. When you legalize it, people will think it's ok to do prostitution and to sleep with a prostitute. Do you like the idea of a prostitution as a career? Do you want to hear "mommy, daddy, i want to be a prostitute one day and be very talented and professional in sex!".

Even without religion, common sense will tell you gay/homosexuality is wrong. A relationship is meant to be between a man and a woman because only thru this, you can produce a child and society will increase in population and human race can continue.

Imagine if this is not a modern world and there is no technique of in vitro fertilization, a gay men couple can not have a child of his own unless one of the man has SEX with a woman and that woman carries his child (and that child only has his own genes alone). I don't know, is it infidelity in the gay world if one of his/her partner have sex with the opposite sex? The same goes for lesbian couple.

You see, if a relationship consists of a man and a woman, they can produce a child and the child has both of his/her parents genes. This is common sense telling you why gay is wrong.

Sarcasm at its best!

I need something CUTE for my blog. Below is an ad by AirAsia who recently have some kind of a rivalry feud with the owner of Tiger Airways or something. I just looooove the ad sooo much coz the crying tiger cub is soooooo CUTE. Below is the link of the news...


http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2010/10/20/nation/7261501&sec=nation

Culture v Religion

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20101017/wl_afp/germanymuslimreligionimmigration

This blog entry is in reference to the link above.

I quote these following passages that got my attention :


1. "This approach has failed, totally," she said, adding that immigrants should integrate and adopt Germany's culture and values.

"We feel tied to Christian values. Those who don't accept them don't have a place here," said the chancellor.

2. Turkish President Abdullah Gul, in a weekend interview, also urged the Turkish community living in Germany to master the language of their adopted country.

"When one doesn't speak the language of the country in which one lives that doesn't serve anyone, neither the person concerned, the country, nor the society," the Turkish president told the Suedeutsche Zeitung.

"That is why I tell them at every opportunity that they should learn German, and speak it fluently and without an accent. That should start at nurseries."


3. The integration of Muslims has been a hot button issue since August when a member of Germany's central bank sparked outrage by saying the country was being made "more stupid" by poorly educated and unproductive Muslim migrants with headscarves.


Truth to be told, this article has some relevance to Malaysia since Malaysia is a Multicultural country.

What i can say about Germany's approach to multicultural society is that it's very strict, as you can see from the above passages. They demand for MIGRANTS to speak fluent German and to adopt it's culture. We are talking about MIGRANTS here, not IMMIGRANTS. the difference?

Migrants : Also called migrant worker. a person who moves from place to place to get work, esp. a farm laborer who harvests crops seasonally.

Immigrants : a person who migrates to another country, usually for permanent residence.

So logically speaking, if you were going to make a foreign country as a permanent residence, you should be able to talk FLUENTLY in that country's language right as oppose to just wanting to work in a foreign country and later go back to your own country? But taking Malaysia as an example, you still can find a lot of non malays who can't speak Bahasa Malaysia (BM) fluently despite the fact that they were born here. What i'm trying to point out here is that how lenient and flexible Malaysia is towards the non malays and yet there are some non malays who have the decency to be very critical about Malaysia being very bias and not respecting them. Look at Germany, it seems like they demand that you follow their culture. Again, i quote from the article :

"That is why I tell them at every opportunity that they should learn German, and speak it fluently and without an accent. That should start at nurseries".

How many non Malays can speak BM without an accent? But believe me, i've come across a few non Malays who can speak BM without an accent and i'm very proud of them.

Another thing that i wanted to point out is that it's f*cking unfair when u say "country was being made "more stupid" by poorly educated and unproductive Muslim migrants with headscarves." This is simply another attempt at attacking Islam. Why do pin point a person's religion as the source of his flaw and not his culture? Do you want to humiliate Islam and that's why you think because he's a Muslim, he's lazy and stupid? Because the religion doesn't make the followers advance in life?

Look at Japan for example. We know the people there are hardworking. But we don't say Buddhists are hardworking, instead we say the Japanese are hardworking. When we say Japanese are hardworking it means we are saying something about their culture.

So why the "poorly educated" and "unproductive" migrants have to be MUSLIMS? Why don't you attack that person's nationality? Imagine if those migrants are Christians, i'm pretty sure the Germans won't dare say the same thing but instead will attack that person's nationality.

"abandoning practices such as forced marriages." This is another passage i get from the article. Why do you associate force marriage with Islam. I don't know whether it means arrange marriage too but forced/arranged marriage is not an Islam thing. It's a culture thing that is common in Asian countries and even the Arab countries.

So what i'm trying to conclude from all of this is that

1. Be grateful to live in Malaysia where you are not forced to speak BM fluently or to follow and adapt the Malay culture. Up until now, i still remembered when a non Malay friend of mine said to her friend that she's lucky to be living in Singapore and not in Malaysia. I know she can't wait to get out of Malaysia and that's why she can say such thing. I think some people find the Malay culture to be stupid and uncool and that's why they don't follow it compare to following the Western culture where it's sooooooo cool and open.

2. Culture and religion can sometimes be closely connected to a person's character. But culture and upbringing actually influence more on a person's character since we all know that these days people don't really follow religion. Example, if a person works as a prostitute or drinks alcohol or take drugs and the person is a Muslim, is it fair to say "Oooh Muslims are like that? They are soo into drugs!". Look at America. It has become a norm there for people to have children out of wedlock and these people are Christians. Do we say Christians are bad? No. We blame the culture and not the religion because the Christians in Asian countries still find that having children out of wedlock is a taboo, embarrassing, humiliating and a disgrace to the family.

Can you Speak & Understand your National Language?

We live in Malaysia, so the national and official language used here is Bahasa Malaysia (BM). So if you claimed to be a Malaysian, you should be able to speak in BM. The second language spoken widely in Malaysia is English. Then for those who are non Malays, they will speak other languages like Tamil, Cantonese, Mandarin etc.

I'm a Malay, so why do i blog in English and talk most of the time in English? Do i not appreciate my national language? Do i think it's not cool to speak in BM? It's none of these reasons. I can speak and understand BM well but maybe i'm used to the English language, especially since entering college since the the subjects are taught in English. Yes, perhaps when i speak BM i have a little problem finding the right word but if people talk to me in BM, i will respond in BM and i have no problem understanding the language.

It's irritating when some Malays think that Malays who speak in English are showing off. Yes, true some do show off, especially when they speak in English with some lame accent (coz they think they sound cool) but there are some Malays who simply just feel more comfortable using English while still remain their respect to the national language.

And so i read something in a newspaper where a guy condemn a 38 year old woman who requested for an interpreter for the charge to be read for her. He claims that the woman wasn't patriotic. There was another person who commented on this and said that just because a person requested for interpreter to interpret in a language he's more conversant in, doesn't make the person less patriotic.

Assuming the woman was a MALAYSIAN, i think it's very very very embarrassing if you can't even understand your own national language to the extend that you need an interpreter. A charge is drafted in the simplest BM, no bombastic words are being used. And besides, can't you ask in BM if you don't understand? Are you saying if the interpreter explained to you in BM also you won't understand?

I don't know, maybe requesting an interpreter is an attempt to waste the court's time or something.

Those who i think deserved an interpreter are :

1. Foreigner committing a crime in Malaysia.
2. a very old and uneducated person. Assuming that the person is very old because he wasn't born in Malaysia and came here as an immigrant then settle down and have children.

But if you are born in Malaysia but received no education, does it mean you can't speak BM?

Why people can't speak or understand BM? Perhaps you surround yourself with people who don't speak BM. Perhaps you just stick to your own race?

I don't expect you to speak BM fluently or to be able to know every meaning of a BM word, but if you don't understand basic BM and require an interpreter despite the fact you are a Malaysian, can you actually call yourself a Malaysian? It seems more like you are a foreigner because you can't even speak and understand your own national language without the aid of an interpreter.

I don't care whether you are patriotic or not, but feel some SHAME for not being able to converse well in your own national language when you can converse well in other languages. And hopefully that shame will make you want to improve speaking in your own national language and not make you ignorant, thinking it's not important.

Discrimination or Mean?

Scenario : this man and woman were working in the same company, but looking at the age differences, i think the guy just started working and the woman seem to be his supervisor or something. Things to take note : they are different race and gender. So i observed that the woman was being kindda mean to the guy because the way she was communicating with him, as if he's stupid. So looking at this scenario, several things came to my mind :

1. Was she being mean to him because of his race? Racial discrimination. Or
2. Was she being mean to him because he's a man? Gender discrimination. Or
3. Was she being mean to him because she's naturally a MEAN person?


However, say if the scenario was to be changed, where there are 2 men of the same race and one was treating the other badly, people will just he's being a mean bastard. No discrimination issues.

The thing i'm trying to say here is that people are quick to jump to conclusion that it's discrimination and not simply an act of meanness. And discrimination is no doubt more serious than being mean and that's why people like to use it as an excuse.

Another example, where women are not paid as much as men for the same work they are doing. Or if they are not being promoted despite the fact they both work for the same time period. If a woman is not promoted, she will quickly jump to the conclusion that she's being discriminated for her gender. This may be true but at the same time another possibility of the non promotion is the fact that she doesn't work as hard as the man or not as dedicated as the men.

If you see a person being bullied at a work place where he's of a particular 'race' surrounded by a 'majority of another particular race', people would immediately think it's discrimination. Again, it could be discrimination especially if there is racist remarks but another possibility he's being bullied is that people around him simply don't like him or his attitude or the way he works.