Trust

It's very hard to gain someone's trust, especially if you have broken the trust before. Trust shouldn't be abused and misused.

In a relationship, trust is crucial. When you trust your partner, you don't do things like check his handphone or his laptop, even if he allows you. Of course he will allow you to check his stuff because if you say no, then you'll start becoming suspicious and will be more problematic a.k.a a nuisance to him and demand answers from him.

But you can't check his hp nor his laptop WITHOUT his permission, regardless if he's hiding something from you. Marriage or relationship doesn't mean you give up your privacy to your partners. Some partners do that, and really, i can't do that. I expect some privacy in my life and "space". Just because im not willing to share some things with my partner, doesn't mean i don't love him.

With all the spot checks you are doing on your partner, don't you think it makes you look paranoid and disrespectful to your partner and at the same it will make your partner "smarter" in hiding things, knowing how nosy you can be.

In bf/gf relationship, you frequently check his hp and laptop and yet you don't see anything amiss to indicate his cheating. Doesn't it cross your mind how married people cheat then since the wife or husband is always at home. Would you always be suspicious whenever your husband goes overseas or hangs out with his friends? Truth to be told, that's when he cheated.

I know someone who was never busy body or paranoid about his partner cheating. He never expect his partner to cheat. But he did find out about the cheating early thru his friends. And he just confronted the woman and the woman, being in a state of shock, admit it. And I've seen how cheating unfolds itself in a miraculous way. It may hurt how you found out about it, but you have CLEAR PROOF that person is cheating, rather than exchange of SMSes between your partner and the opposite sex. They could have just been friends, it doesn't expose any cheating.

As i've said earlier, once you abused trust, it's hard for you to gain back the trust. When your partner cheats, you decide to take him back and you think you can trust him again. People always THINK they can do things or PRETEND to accept like nothing bad happened.

When you don't trust your partner because he has cheated before, that's when accusations and arguments will keep on coming. Even when he didn't cheat, you accused him of cheating because he cheated you before. So really, i don't understand how people can live in a relationship like that? You don't want to let him go because you still love him even though he cheated behind your back but yet you never really forgive him for cheating behind your back. And it will take you YEARS to actually realize that you can never trust your partner again and thus ending the relationship. Haven't you waste your time pretending and trying to trust your partner?

Or perhaps you are the kind of person that don't mind getting knocked over so many times.

Football Fever - Fairness?

I was trying to memorize my Contract Law notes. Hell, it took me 10 minutes just to memorized what's the meaning of CONSIDERATION just because a bunch of people can't give the definition in simple English and to make it sound bombastic, they twist and turn the words to give a bombastic definition.

Of course me, still being bitter over Germany's unfair red card given by the asshole referee, become irritated when France got a red card. And the past few days, as far as i can remembered, Brazil and Switzerland got a red card each. So i'm thinking the giving of red card has become a stupid trend among referees in WORLD CUP 2010 because in these matches, according to the commentators it's unfair and unjustified. Maybe i should illustrate to the referee what amounts to red card, by me ATTACKING HIM and PUNCHING him if i was a football player.

I personally think that the giving of RED CARDS is a cheap publicity by referees to be acknowledged in the headlines of newspaper, even though it's bad publicity. They won't appear in headlines if they give good referring compare to giving a bad one. A bad publicity is better publicity than no publicity at all.

Anyway, there's nothing to be proud of winning a match where you are playing against 10 men where the 11th player got an UNJUSTIFIED RED CARD. Sure, you are lucky to win but you can't say you are so great. Would you have win if you were playing against 11 players? It's like playing against a handicap when you are perfect.

Then you have Maradona and his famous World Cup handball. I was having an argument with a friend on this matter because he thinks Maradona is good even if he cheated and that Argentina deserved to in the World Cup despite the handball. And at that time, there was political dispute between Argentina and England so it was a further sweet victory when Argentina won in football against England. So Maradona is a great player, that doesn't justify his cheating. Great players don't cheat.

What pisses me off about this Maradona's handball is that only recently did he confessed he KNEW it was a handball and he intentionally did it. Hand of God you tell me? More of a Hand of Cheater.

People who cheat during exam, do you think they deserve to pass? NO.

People who use plastic surgery to look pretty, do you think they deserve to be complimented on their beauty? NO.

Athletes who cheated by taking steroids, do they deserved to win? NO.

Cheating may go on without being unnoticed but if YOU KNOW YOU CHEATED, at least have the DECENCY not to parade around or feel proud of yourself over your accomplishment which was obtained with cheating. Your accomplishment was never achieved via FAIR PLAY.