Compliments and Criticisms

They say that if you have nothing nice to say, then you better just shut up. That's one of my principles in life among my many other principles.

It's human nature that we like to hear compliments and not criticisms. We become proud and happy if we received compliments and upset if we are being criticized. Sometimes, criticism is necessary especially when you are working or studying because we need to produce good results or work. Without criticism, you won't be able to better yourself when there's a need for you to better yourself.

However, there are some people who like to criticized unnecessarily. The possible reasons why people criticized you unnecessarily :

1. they naturally don't like you.
2. they feel better if they criticized you.
3. they simply have a foul mouth and are insensitive beings.
4. they THINK they are doing it for your own good. But you DON'T THINK so.

Being commented you are fat or you gained weight is a common thing in society. General rule, being called fat is a criticism. While being called skinny, thin, slim is a compliment and when someone say you lose weight it's also a compliment provided you are not sick or a drug addict. That's what you get living in a SUPERFICIAL society.

My question : why do you need to tell someone that he/she gained weight or is fat? WHY?! Are you concern about his health? Gaining slight weight doesn't mean you are doomed for diabetes or heart attack. Skinny people do get heart attack you know.

Some say they comment such thing because they think the other person DON'T REALIZED his physical flaw. Excuse me, the other person sees his naked body in front of the mirror everyday and you think he doesn't know what flaw his body has?

It's not just about weight but sometimes people comment why don't you get your eyebrows trimmed, it looks hideous. Or your hair is horrible, etc etc... The main thing is that people like to comment about PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. Isn't everyone entitled to their very own choice of physical appearance? Not everyone is into looking perfect or plastic or fake.

Another unnecessary critical comment is skin complexion like your are getting darker or you are having pimple break out or whatever it is.

If you are happy with the way you look, why should you change yourself just because someone tell or suggest you to change?

People are so obsessed with looks and if you don't follow the typical-what-society want look, you will be criticized. Like in Malaysia, especially in the Malay community, the typical beauty is being FAIR, SLIM and HEAVY DUTY MAKEUP. This is what i observed anyway.

I don't hear people commenting "Oh, you are so STUPID!" or "Oh, you are so POOR!", but noooo, it's a must to comment on physical appearance. It's like they will die if they don't comment your physical flaw.

Don't comment unless you were asked to comment. Some people are simply happy with the way they look and they don't need some person to lower their self esteem just because he/she doesn't have the ideal look. And if you do want to be commented, be prepared for the worst answer. Who ask you to ask anyway.