Look At It This Way...

Married men or men with gfs don't trigger any interest in me. Yes, i still be friends with them but no hanky panky. There's this one incident on a social networking where i've known this guy for a very long time. He has my number and all but somehow one day we lost contact. Then he messaged me back on the social networking and i notice from his profile he has a gf. When he asked me out, i pointed out to the fact he has a gf. Then of course, the typical answer would be "just go out as friends, what's the problem?".

So one day i was online when suddenly this guy chatted with me on the social network and the language he used was rough, not as what he used when he messaged me. the "so called" guy rudely asked me what's wrong with his gf. At this moment, I suspected something amiss. First and foremost, while exchanging message with the guy, i never talk about his gf or bitched about her. So what's with the question?

So i played along, i wanted to see how dumb this bitch was. And the way she talked to me was starting to get on my fucking nerves, talking like some uneducated, uncivilised "minah rempit" with terms like "ko", "aku"... It irritates the daylights out of me when someone talk to me in such way, be it guys or girls. I find it very disrespectful, and who cares if that person is not close to you. Why can't you just use "saya" or "kamu".

That bitched pressed the wrong button when she said i'm like a tin kosong. That's when i turned into my full bitch mode. Who in the fucked does she think she is to say that to me. The thing bout this bitch is that she's being bitchy with me just because her bf was contacting me. Hey bitch, i never make the first move. And i never encourage him. And if you act this bitchy with me, i've give a bitch lecture that you'll never forget, bitch.

I immediately went to that guy's profile to see how does his gf look like. I also came across her profile. Truth to be told, the bf is very good looking. He's cute but thin. Any girls would throw themselves at him and i can see that's what the gf is doing. But for me, in rules of dating rules, good looks isn't everything.

Back to that bitch, she's not a threat. But for calling me a tin kosong, i feel like stuffing a fucking tin kosong down her throat. Does she need me to illustrate what's a fucking tin kosong? Just by looking at her pic, she looks like a fucking tin kosong. So i attacked her back with my level of education coz i know she has nothing (yes, i can be that mean when you think you are some kind of a fucking hot shot but the fact is you aren't). I was telling her does she want me to slap her with my degree on her fucking face.

Then she said whats the point of education if my attitude is like shit. This is when i go 101% full bitch mode and blow her cover. She doesn't even know me and said my attitude is like shit? I was telling her bitch, don't blame me if your bf is "gatal" because in the first place, i never talk about you with your bf and suddenly you are accusing me of saying something bad about his gf?

Then she tried to insist that she's a BOY and not a girl. That's when i noticed she became timid and didn't proceed with bitching bout me.

People, when your partner is cheating behind your back, there's no point of getting angry at the third person. It's a different story if that person is the one who makes the first move and tries to seduce him/her.

The problem of cheating comes from your partner, not the surrounding environment or circumstances. Your partner is 90% blameworthy. But i see most couples decide to forgive their partner and bitch about the 3rd party. Yes, you may eliminate the current third party but if your partner has a cheating attitude, there will always be future 3rd parties. So what, you are gonna keep eliminating the 3rd parties like pesky rodents while you declare your undying strong bond of love with your partner who isn't taking you that seriously? People are indeed so blinded by "sad" and "pathetic" love.

It's not really racism...

Sometimes when you travel by the public bus, you observed a lot such as people and the surroundings. I mean, if you are driving, you are suppose to concentrate on the road so you can't really pay attention to other stuff. When you take the bus, you meet a lot of weird people. Like the other day, there's this woman who was wiping her face with a piece of towel and she used the same towel to WIPE HER ARMPITS. She really wipe her armpits! And then she wiped her face again.

And today i noticed something INTERESTING. The bus was passing by this condominium and it stopped there for awhile because of the jammed. It gave me time to read what was on the banner :

" We are not racism but we are against foreigners who are arrogant, rebellious and can't adapt to our lifestyle and Malaysia culture". I would have taken a picture of this but there was a guy sitting across me and the banner was behind him so if i look at the banner any longer or attempt to take a pic of it, he would think i'm interested in him or something.

I think there's a slight English mistake on the banner, it should have been RACISTS not racism. Nevertheless, i feel that the banner does convey the right message because that was how i felt ages ago when Malaysia decide to take in too many foreigners and when foreigners start to become troublemakers.

You see, I know this condominium well. It's a very packed place. Not such a good environment to live in but the rental is cheap. And there's a lot of foreign students there, the Blacks, Arabians, Chinese from China etc. Not many Bangladesh people there because the Bangladesh and Indonesian workers stay at another apartment.

Back to this Racism issue. Some people think that racism arise due to discrimination of skin colour. Perhaps this is true long long time ago but people now are highly educated. So it's got to be more than just skin colour. Seriously, why do you want to hate something just because it's too white, black or yellow? That's simply too shallow. Example, even in the Malay community, they take such pride if you are fair. When you are fair, it means you are beautiful, high class, etc. That's why you have so many young girls who use skin whitening products for the sake of looking like a bloody ghost. Like those stupid local advertisement, showing that if you are dark, you are unnoticeable. But when you use the stupid skin whitening, immediately the guy of your dreams notices you. What kind of B*llsh*t is that?

Truth to be told, i never discriminate people on skin colour. What i discriminate is ATTITUDE. Bad attitude.

All over this world, there are many cultures. Some cultures are too open, some are liberal while some are very conservative. That's when you get culture shock, because you have never experience such culture in your life especially if the culture is very open. Asian people culture tend to be more on the conservative part. In Malaysia, we are semi conservative. Majority of the people are conservative and the rest are like open minded and wild. But if you go to Saudi Arabia, that country is super conservative, so are the laws. But that's their culture and we must respect it.

When you are a foreigner and you enter a foreign country, you must respect that culture, you have no rights to criticized that country's culture. If you plan to live in the country due to work or studying, it might take you some time to adapt to it but eventually you will get used to it if you really try it.

Malaysians are not loud people. And you must remember, this is a country where the main religion is Islam and the majority here are Muslims. So we don't like it if we see people drinking in public and acting like hooligans, screaming and dancing like some retard humans. You want to do all these nonsense, it's not prohibited. You do it ONLY at CLUBS, with the rest of your drunken species. But never do it in public, it's an act that is not tolerable. Our own people don't do it, what more if you are a foreigner and you do it?

Some cultures are simply too wild. When it's too wild, it can't fit in a conservative country.

I don't entirely blame the foreign students for this discrimination issue and them being insensitive to Malaysia's culture. Malaysia government and the foreign student's government should take the INITIATIVE to educated their students about Malaysia's culture, the Do's and Don'ts of the country.

But Noooooooo, authorities are too selfish and greedy to make such initiative. All they care is money and the attempt at building a relationship between the two countries, hence the student exchange program. This is a total waste of time and crap if you in the first place never bother to educate your people about each others' cultures. Instead you just let your people run off loosely in the country and hope they will learn about that country on their own. So you are indirectly letting your people make all the mistakes and get into trouble with local authorities instead of letting them know firstly of what they shouldn't do in that country.

Different cultures are the real cause to racial discrimination, especially if one can't really accept such culture. People should learn to tolerate each others' culture but if you aren't Malaysian, you can't expect the rest of Malaysians to accept your wild foreign culture, especially if it's totally contrary to what the majority practices.

Also, because majority of the students of that particular foreign country are troublemakers, the good ones get the bad names, hence people start to labeling that they whole kind is bad, making the innocent ones as victims too. As the saying goes, one rotten apple spoils the barrel. For Malaysians, we shouldn't behave this way, don't start labeling people just because the majority are very messed up.

Like in the bus the other day, i observed how rude were the bus driver and the conductor towards the foreign students. I felt sorry for the 2 male foreign students and embarrassed as a Malaysian. Why must they be so rude if the 2 boys didn't do anything wrong? That one is clearly discrimination based on 'labeling'.

Reality of MOST marriage...

Women get married in their early 20's.
Get pregnant in their mid 20's.
Divorce in their 30's.

A simple explanation on the increased amount of divorces and single moms in Malaysia ...

Question, Analyse and Understand

I bought a DVD today which has a sticker on it which says WARNING: THIS FILM IS NOT SUITABLE FOR MUSLIM VIEWERS. The sticker made me more eager to watch since my friends did tell me it's a good movie and really makes you think. I'm a very curious person. Like for example, if somebody told me there's a movie that is really very gore, i would watch it. Any controversial movie will make me wanna watch it.

At times i think Malaysia is being overprotective of it's Muslims citizens with the amount of banning and censorship. The purpose of the banning? So the Muslims won't be brainwashed or easily influenced. Personally for me, if your faith is strong, you won't be easily influenced. As for me, i'm not a person who's easily influenced. I stay strong to my principles despite people may tell me i'm wrong. Well, in a way i am stubborn.

Telling Muslims what they can and can't watched is indirectly implying they are stupid and don't know how to think. Don't tell me just by watching one movie alone your faith can change? If say i was easily influenced by the movie, firstly i would asked someone knowledgeable in my religion if i have anything in my mind that troubles me regarding my religion. And i would expect a decent answer. If i can't get a decent answer, i would ask other people who can give me a satisfactory answer. If you really love your religion, you wouldn't just convert in a split second over something someone said to you or something that you watched. You need to use your brain to seek the truth.

God gives human beings "akal" (i think it's called intelligence in English) for us to THINK. That's the difference between humans and animals. Humans can think and tell the difference between right and wrong. Whatever it is that we do, we use our intelligence to think. We face a problem, we think rationally and logically to find a solution.

It applies the same way to religion. What is wrong with questioning your own religion? It doesn't mean you have committed the greatest sin of all but most people would think that way.They think the moment you question your religion, you don't believe in your religion. That's bullsh*t. I questioned my religion a lot and i seek answers from the right people and they gave me satisfactory answers. I asked questions such as :

1. What's the purpose of us being put on earth and being told to believe in Him?
2. What's the purpose of praying.

And many more. When i questioned, i always get reasonable answers, there's no contradictions. why do you need to follow something blindly just because everyone is doing it? You have the right to question and the right to get an answer.

Of course, since people like to be judgmental of me, when i asked questions, someone did tell me whats the point of me asking and questioning the religion if i'm not following what that religion requires me to do. Again, i'm not a saint. But what kind of person are you for giving me that kind of answer? Whether i follow it or not, i'm just asking out of curiosity. Imagine if an outsider that doesn't practice your religion ask a similar question, are you just gonna tell him/her provided her convert into your religion?

But this is simply human nature. They become upset when they couldn't answer you, especially those super religious people that's suppose to know it all but couldn't answer your answer so he become very frustrated and started accusing you of being a "murtad" for questioning your religion. There are 2 kinds of religious and knowledgeable people, those who use their brain to think, and those who don't use their brain to think. Those who use their brain to think can answer your questions while those who don't use their brain to think, the only reason why they are claimed to be religous is because they read and memorize a lot of religious stuff and do a lot of religious practices.

Simply put it this way, how can you truly appreciate something without understanding it? And how would you understand if you don't question it in the first place if it raises doubt in you.

Disrespecting the Dead...

There was an issue whereby one of Malaysia's celebrity, Din Beramboi passed away and there was a boy on Facebook who said something disrespectful and mean. He said "Al-F*ck for Din", whereby it was suppose to be "Al Fatihah for Din".

The boy is a school boy. Around 13 years old or lesser. What he said is totally wrong and deserved to be slapped. There was a face book fan page that demand the boy to apologized for what he said. Basically, it's a hate page towards the boy.

I noticed that some of the comments made by those who joined the page demanded that a police report be made against him. I think it's unreasonable. On what grounds you want police to catch him? For insulting the dead? As far as i know, there's no such law. Few months ago, i think it was the Sultan of Johor who passed away and someone insulted him and charges were made against that person. Maybe there's such offence if you insulted the Sultan or Agong since they are the "big" people.

But if you simply insult normal people or celebrities, be it they are dead or alive, it's just a normal insult. It's not even a defamation and defamation don't even worked on dead people. Defamation is an action that you bring against someone who said something UNTRUE about yourself to the PUBLIC and it has the effect of DAMAGING your REPUTATION. Insulting is just saying something mean and humiliating. Someone may say i'm a whore or ugly in their website but i can't do anything about it except for bitching back to that person. This is one of the crappy sides of freedom of speech.

But i found out that the boy is not a Muslim. He's a Sabahan in fact. I wonder what is happening to the Sabahan these days, very foul mouthed. When i was in Sabah, before moving to KL, my non Malay Sabahan friends are nice. In fact i dare say that Sabahan people are less racists than the Semananjungs. I guess the racial tension is taking it's toll on Malaysians. That's what happens when you don't think with your head and are insensitive to people's feelings.

The boy said he's not a Muslim (his name sounded like a Malay name but in Sabah, you can have a Malay like name but you are still a non Muslim), i don't know, could this be a gimmick by him to make people hate non muslims for saying something disrespectful (some people are simply stupid, just because one person said something wrong, they want to blame the whole people who has the same race or religion as him)? But regardless whether the boy is a Muslim or not, he said Al-F*ck, and from his sentence, "Al F*ck for Din" it's suppose to be synonym with Al Fatihah for Din. I'm pretty sure there's an offence for insulting religion, be it other people's religion or your own religion. You can say mean stuff, but never get it involved with race or religion or you'll be in deep shit.

Bearing in mind this idiot boy is a MINOR, he's below 18 years old (i hope he's not less than 10 years old because if he is, then he is doli incapax - incapable of committing crime), he can be made to apologized to the late Din's family and probably community service.

But the way i see people commented in anger on facebook over what the boy said, it made me think would there be a hate page for a 11,12 or 13 year who committed murder? Who killed his family perhaps? They call the boy many mean names. But the way i see the boy handling the situation, he has no such regrets saying what he said since he claimed that the late Din made many "bad" and "hurtful" jokes during his life time.

I don't like children. But if children or young teens commit offensive acts, aren't we suppose to guide them to the right path instead of being very critical of them? Some children are just born to be so rude and mean. I find it hard to deal with them without feeling the urge to slap them for their rudeness but as adults, we know children can't think clearly and rationally and not aware of their offensive actions. Sometimes when children turned out "bad", there are so many factors that lead to it such as bad parenting, bad environment and bad friends' influence.

If i were ever a parent and my child did something like this, i will have to take responsibility by making him apologized to the late Din's family and give him a good lecture at home. If my child is so stubborn that he is so uncontrollable, i'll make an application to the Magistrate Court to get him put in a place something like a center for troubling teens. I saw a woman made such application to a Magistrate before because her 15 year daughter wouldn't listen to her, always running from the house and always coming back home late.

Test Drive

Was thinking bout test drive coz around July or August i will have to start to learn how to drive. I already have my license but i'm scared to drive. So since i'll be working soon, i will need to drive a damn car.

Why do people test drive cars before buying it? To see whether they feel comfortable driving it. Can you test drive your partner before being involved in a relationship or getting married to that person? Fortunately or unfortunately, you can't, for the simple reason that it's morally wrong. You'll just have to accept the bad qualities once you start living together, or try to change that person (if you are successful).

But because people are unpredictable, there's no point really to test drive. The person might appear nice and sweet for the first 5 years but for the next 5 years they might turn horrid.

Getting a new partner is like getting a new phone...

i was having a discussion with my ex (my ex happens to be one of the very few people who i can have a decent discussion whereby he can interact back with me. Most men are lousy at conversations). Yes, i still meet him once awhile but that doesn't mean i still have feelings for him because i don't. I only meet him coz i'm single and eventually when i do have a bf, i will stop meeting him.

For me, relationships shouldn't be rushed, no matter how badly you want it or you think you need it. There are some guys who can suggest to "couple" without even meeting. Or couple after a few days or weeks of meeting.

I admit, i do feel lonely being single but that's life. I don't want to couple for the sake to make my loneliness disappear. I go for substance, not necessity. What does this mean?

Substance : i want to couple with a guy because i feel comfortable with him, we have some things in common, i enjoy his presence, we can communicate, he has what i want, i can see a future with him, etc etc.

Necessity : you couple coz all your friends are in a relationship or the fact that you hate being alone, doing things alone, become jealous of other couples, etc, etc. Also happens in marriage where people get married thru arranged marriage (not that i think arrange marriage is wrong). Nowadays some people go for arrange marriage because they are getting old and still unmarried. Or those who only couple for awhile, like say 6 months and then decide to get married. Reason? Coz they are in their late 20's or 30's. I tell you, i've come across so many people who rushed into getting married because they are getting old. That's the problem of society these days, they succumb to public and society's pressure whereby the thinking goes like this : there's something wrong with you if you are not married by the time you reach ur late 20's.

Now why do i say getting a new partner is like getting a new phone?

Let's talk about a typical scenario of buying a hp. If i want to buy a new hp to replace the old one, i will make sure it has additional features which my previous hp doesn't have. Like say my old phone doesn't have 3G and the new phone has one. But sometimes, there are some features in the new phone which is not as good as the old phone, example the keypad of the old phone is way better than the new one. The new phone is not necessarily perfect, but at least it's still better than the old phone.

So my ex accused me of seeking a perfect partner. It would seem that my requirements for the next partner (only i will know) may be demanding but that isn't exactly true.

Of course my next partner would be better than my ex. Why in the hell would i find a partner who's worst than my ex? What idiot had a better quality phone and then decides to buy a lesser quality one? unless of course the phone was stolen and there's not enough money to buy a new one so he has to settle for a cheaper one.

My new partner may not have some of the good qualities my ex has but overall, i'm willing to accept the flaws of my new partner because i think in other aspects, my new partner is better than my ex. So like i gave the example earlier, my new phone's keypad may suck compare to the old one but overall, my new phone gave me the satisfaction of using it.

In getting new things, i always make sure it has better functions than the old ones. So in seeking a partner, the same principle is applicable :-)...